(Closed) Should we????

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: What would you do?
    Pay them back first! : (119 votes)
    88 %
    Take the honeymoon, they gave you time to pay it back. : (9 votes)
    7 %
    Wait to pay them back, but wait on the trip too. A nicer honeymoon is ALWAYS better! : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    11284 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    even if the cruise was less than $600, i would never consider going on a honeymoon knowing that i owed someone money.  it doesn’t seem appropriate.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    bills come before pleasure.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    pay them back first, then take your honeymoon.  You’ll feel better on your honeymoon knowing you don’t have debt looming. It will also give you somethig fun to look forward to after the wedding excitment dies down.  I think that’s really the most responsible thing to do and really will show your appreciation for their generosity.  

    Post # 7
    Member
    890 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Personally, I wouldn’t take the money :/  But if you do, pay it first than honeymoon.

    Post # 8
    Member
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    pay them back first. i would feel bad owing people money and im off enjoying myself.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Prevent any hard feelings with them (borrowing money almost always changes relationships) and pay them off first. Your trip can always be taken at a later date, but hard feelings can take a long time to recover from. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think the fact you’re concerned about it may make it bother you for a long while in the future.  (may)

    So, perhaps that is your answer?

    You alluded to things being better in a few months – will this be the case?  If you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, that might help you with the decision.  Try setting a goal to save up for the cruise in the future perhaps?  If the light at the end of the tunnel is a long, long way away, then perhaps take the cruise (it’s not too expensive, really) and then work hard to find a way to recoup the $600.  Note that you may get cash gifts from the wedding, so there’s a chance you’ll be able to pay them back faster than you anticipated!

    Post # 11
    Member
    12624 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would not feel right owing people money (especially not family) and also going on a big vacation.  Pay them first, and save for a one year anniversary trip!

    Post # 12
    Member
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Sorry there would be hurt feelings if I loaned someone money and they took a trip (regardless of the cost).

    Why not pay them back and still take the trip? Cruises are amazing!

    Post # 13
    Member
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I say pay them back first, because I hate when someone owes me money and I see them buying new stuf and taking trips. If you can do that, then you can pay them back.

    Post # 14
    Member
    3302 posts
    Sugar bee

    Ashley1281- I completely agree- please pay them back first. It will look really bad on you if you don’t.

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    7564 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Borrowing money (even if it wasn’t requested) is tricky. Always pay it back as soon as possible. Even though they said they can wait a year, they may feel uncomfortable with you taking a trip. 

    Post # 16
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    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Did they loan you money because of your wedding?  If so, then maybe they are expecting that you’ll use some of it for wedding-related stuff.  But if they loaned you money for something like getting your car fixed, then they probably wouldn’t want you to use it on a vacation.

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