(Closed) Should we add a BM and GM to our wedding party this late in the game?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1211 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would be honest! You’ll regret it if you don’t ever say anything. Invite them out for dinner/drinks and just tell them that you’ve valued getting to know them and consider them some of your closest friends! Let them know that you picked your bridal party when you were still new friends—but now that you’ve become so close, you can’t imagine your wedding party without them. As long as you make it clear that you didn’t ask because you’d just met, but that you really want them now that you’ve gotten to know them, I can’t see it being taken as  a bad thing. I’d be really flattered if I were them 🙂 

Post # 4
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with MsMonkey. And I’d like to add that if Bob and Fran are married, you could give her the title of Matron of Honor. She may like this, since she wants to be so involved in the wedding planning.

Post # 6
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This happened to me. I knew right off the bat who my 3 BMs would be and Fiance said yes, 3 bm and 3 gm…but I kept asking if he was sure because I knew who he’d ask and he’d have 4 NOT 3. He kept saying yes 3 of each. Then 6 months later when HE finally came around to asking his gms he realized he couldn’t pick between 2 of them (DUH!) so now he wants 4 on each side. I asked my friend to be the 4th bm, she had been involved in all the wedding planning up to that point so she was in the loop on everything. She was flattered and honored and didn’t seem to care that she was a “b-list” bm. She’s actually been the most helpful bm!!

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