Post # 1
FI already asked his groomsmen and he literally just asked lol by phone for a couple in person for the others. I wanted to have fun with it and also LOVE giving gifts so I bought my BMs little knot rings and will put a note in the box.
Do you think it’s rude to ask the ladies with a gift and not the guys?
Side note: FI does plan to get the guys really cool groomsmen gifts.
Post # 3
I don’t really think it’s necessary to do both the same. Guys generally aren’t into little trinkets and things of that nature anyway.
Post # 4
@PinkStripes: Of course it’s ok. It’s not as if the guys are going to get together with the girls and compare notes.
Post # 5
Don’t overthink. And don’t blow the budget early on. You’re at the beginning stages… trust me! My wedding is in 12 days, from this vantage point I can say that the less you overthink, the happier you’ll be.
Also, if your wedding is in 2015, you might want to hold off and ask them in 2014. Their lives and priorities and the states they live in might be completely different in a year and a half. Trust me!
In the last year and a half, we’ve lost two people who I would’ve SWORN would be in our wedding party (if you asked me in 2011). One went crazy and pissed off. And one moved to Italy with her military husband and can’t come back for the wedding.
Post # 6
Men do things differently in real life too, it would almost be silly to expect them to do wedding related stuff the same as we do…
Post # 7
Okay thanks everyone this is bascially the response I thought I’d get I just hate the idea of hurting anyone’s feelings but I should know by now guys just don’t like to fuss lol
hmmm never thought about the problems associated with asking too early. One is my cousin, one is my sister and the other two are friends from my the beginning of high school I guess the thought of them not being able to come never crossed my mind lol thanks for the advice 🙂
p.s. I STILL haven’t figured out how to reply to multiple people I tried the @ symbol before the name but no luck. Help?
Post # 8
@PinkStripes: To reply to multiple people you can also copy the link with their name at the beginning of their post and paste it in this box 🙂
Also i 2nd not asking too early – wait and see how people treat you during your engagement first.
Post # 10
I got cute cards for my BM’s and my FI pretty much said “hey you wana be a groomsman, ok cool man”.
Men don’t appriciate those things like us ladies do.
Post # 11
I made custom gift boxes, jewelry and poems for my girls. My husband just asked his brother over the phone lol. I don’t think guys care.
Post # 12
Those ideas are so sweet your ladies must have loved them. You’re right, guys don’t seem to appreciate those kinds of things do they? haha