(Closed) Should we be upset about this?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@swtTea: I’d tell him no. You bought it for him to wear at YOUR wedding. Him wearing it for anything beforehand is a liability that he’ll ruin it. Even if he says he’ll cover the cost of dry cleaning, who’s to say he might not rip a whole in the butt dancing? Or put the jacket on a chair somewhere because he’s warm and loose it?

Post # 4
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

valid point but if he promises to dry clean it after the fact and or pay for any damages, why not?

It’s a suit, it’s not a hot pink dress that EVERYONE will know was worn before.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s his now so he can wear it whenever he wants to, but I find it strange… I think it definitely says something about his character, I can’t put my finger on what though. But if he were a friend of mine I would remember that he did this, and be careful he may do something to take advantage of my generosity in the future. But there’s nothing you can do about it now, and no reason to let it worry you too much.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

On the one hand, it is his now, and it was a gift. Traditionally, you can’t dictate what a recipient is supposed to do with a gift after the fact. The idea of him wearing it someplace else first doesn’t bother me in principle.

On the other hand, considering he is only getting married a month before you guys, that doesn’t leave a lot of time to correct it if something gets ruined or lost. And if something happened and it couldn’t get fixed in time, I would be livid that we spent all that money on attire for our wedding party and one groomsman is the odd man out because he was irresponsible about it. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What!!!  Absolutely not.  Yes, it’s a gift to him…But it’s a gift for being in your wedding and he shouldn’t get to use it until after your wedding.  What if he stains it or rips it!  Since he’s a close friend I don’t think it’s worth getting into a dramatic argument over, but your fiance needs to find a way to politely tell him NO and to get some manners.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sorry, that’s cheap and rude. Not only did he not have to worry about purchasing/renting for your wedding as a groomsman, but he’s using the suit you bought him FOR YOUR WEDDING to get out of buying/renting for his own? Who does that? 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@swtTea: Eh, it may be inconsiderate. But you did buy him the suit. You did give it to him. He will wear it for your wedding.. but he wants to wear it for his as well. I don’t see the big deal, especially since it’s just a suit. Then again, I wore my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress to another wedding before my friend’s wedding. It was a black dress that doesn’t stand out in the first place. And I bought it with my own money, so I had every right (IMO) to wear it whenever I wanted as long as it’s in good shape for her wedding. Same goes for your Groomsmen.

Post # 11
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That is SO BIZARRE!  I understand that it is a gift to him, but I agree that it is a gift to be used for your wedding, and he shouldn’t be wearing it until after that.  I wonder what his future wife thinks about it (or was it her idea?!)!

Post # 12
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

I would think it were off.. but really nice that he actually asked first! I would prob ask him to not use the same shirt and stuff.. and ONLY the suit. That way.. if a glass of red wine is spilled on him..  actually.. if a glass of red wine is spilled on anything but a black suit it would be a bitch to get out. especially if not dry cleaned on the spot! Just ask that he not do it

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

it only a suit, i wouldnt get upset about it because give it a dryclean and it will be perfectly new again

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