- 6 days ago
I don’t post much, but I read the forum daily, and see some really great advice. Hoping you can help me too please.
The eagle eyed may remember me from such previous issues as my grandfather dying unexpectedly and then his funeral being on the day of our planned engagement, or our wedding venue closing down without warning and not being able to get the deposit back due to issues with the wedding insurance.
We are now just over 3 months out from the wedding.
The venue is ignoring our emails and calls (have been since October – all we wanted was our invoice and more recently the menu so we can get it to guests). There has been a big restructure at my work which is making me question my ability to stay there and morale is at an all time low. We are moving cities, and the house move has been really problematic and more expensive than planned.
Because of all this we are behind on planning the wedding and don’t have a photographer, cake, hairdresser for me or outfit for him yet. My hair is actually thinning from the stress of everything. Sadly my weight is going the other way!
Then today, my mother, who I am really close to and who lives alone and doesn’t drive, was diagnosed with breast cancer. It is going to be a struggle trying to get back to support her for her operation and follow up treatments. The operation is only a week after we are due to move across the country.
While thankfully the prognosis looks good, I’m obviously going to need and want to focus on her for a while.
We’re really not sure what to do. We don’t want to let people down who have made travel arrangements. I’m conflicted as we are both older and I feel like if we don’t get married now, we probably won’t bother with a reception or anything if we have to reschedule for a second time.
Everything is just too fucking difficult right now.
What would you do in my shoes? Cancel the wedding? Get married, but not have a party? Go through with it anyway? Aarrghhh