(Closed) Should we cancel our honeyfund registry?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: If we can't buy a house in the next 3-5 years, should we cancel our cash registry for down payment?
    Yes, cancel it : (59 votes)
    71 %
    No, keep it and save the money you recieve : (24 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2604 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @MrsM914:  I voted to cancel it but really because I think “give me money” registries/requests are just inappropriate.

     

    Just make a small registry of household items or have no registries at all and people will likely give you cash without you having to hold out the tin cup. 

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    6215 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I think that if you cancel it and keep your registry small, people will give you cash anyway. You can always have your family and friends spread the word that you prefer cash because you are trying to save for a future home purchase. 

    If you do decide to keep it, make sure that you note that this is for a down payment on a home after you Fiance finishes all of his degrees, so that people aren’t offended when they don’t see you buy a house after the wedding. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    @Zhabeego:  +1

    I would not even go to a wedding if I was asked explicitly for money. Buying your house is not my problem. I bought 6 on my own.

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    41 posts
    Newbee

    I said “cancel it” because requests for money are inappropriate.

    Post # 7
    Member
    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I thought that a “Honeyfund” (the terminology makes me cringe) was cash towards a honeymoon?

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Is this common where you are from?

     

    a. Yes

     

    b. No

     

    If you answered a. then save the money for a future deposit

     

    If you answered b. then you will get a reaming from all the Bee’s who love to talk about how bad it is. Hang your head in shame, you are a bad bad Bee. 

     

    Post # 11
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    1980 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Regardless of how I may feel about a Honeyfund registry, I think that its wrong to ask guest to give money for X and then not use it for that. Even though you may have the best of intentions with the money, its likely that money will get spent on other things (life happens!) if you don’t use it immediately on a down payment. I think the likelihood o fyou holding onto your Honeyfund money for 5 years and leaving it intact for a down payment are slim to none.

    Post # 13
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    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MrsM914:  You’re getting the snarky “cancel it because its tacky” responses instead of “cancel it because in this situation it makes sense”

     

    I say keep it going. put it in a savings account, and don’t touch it. Send out your post wedding thank you cards, and then, when you do buy that amazing first home, send out round two, with pictures. 🙂 Maybe include an invitation to a barbeque. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    8424 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have never been a fan of these or a fan of asking for money in general…….I know many do it but I have never liked it so my vote would have to be cancel it. You will still get money thou many people give money instead of buying off the registry!

     

     

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Ps- sooooooo glad that, once again, I was educated on what is and isn’t proper as a human being. 

     

    BARF

    BARF

    BARF

    Post # 16
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    8392 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think asking for money to basically pad your savings account is a bit tacky, yes.

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