Post # 17
You need to do what is best for you, and for your fiance. If you want to wait, wait and if you don’t don’t. A wedding only happens once, and you want to have it when it is right for you. You don’t want to be miserable on your special day worrying about money or feeling ill.
Just think about what you want to do, and go with that. Your heart and body, will tell you what to do.
Post # 18
what is more important t you, being married to your Fiance or having a wedding? they are not one in the same. i got married in a civil ceremony to my Fiance a year ago, and we are having our wedding in june 09. getting married is the sacred act, the wedding is the party. you can do both according to what works for you.
Post # 19
Wow! I didn’t expect to get this many responses. Thank you all so much. I have talked to my Fiance and we have definitely decided to postpone the wedding. I haven’t seen my mom so I haven’t been able to tell her yet, but she is just going to have to understand. I have too many other pots on the stove at this point. She will just have to understand.
Thank you all again so so much for the support and the advice. You have no idea how much it means to have reassurance about what we are going to do. I feel much better already.
Post # 20
Ashcole, I’m so glad you were able to come to a decision! I think that this will REALLY work out for you in the long run!!!!
Good luck with your mom. Perhaps you can explain to her that this is the responsible, mature thing to do, and since you and hubby will be together FOREVER, postponing a bit is the best idea of everyone!