(Closed) Should we change our wedding date?? VOTE!

posted 9 years ago in July 2010
  • poll: Should we move our date from July to June?
    Keep it in July. More planning time will be worth it. You can "take the heat"! : (11 votes)
    28 %
    Move it to June. You can deal with losing a month of planning, but not a sweltering reception! : (28 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Well let’s hope that they DO indeed get back together..crossing my fingers.  I hate to see that happen.

    Maybe approach his bff saying something like "We’re so sorry about that …we really hope you two can work it out..it that a possibility?"  If that is indeed a possibility, then I’d go for the July wedding.  If he says "No way in hades" or something like that and say a major deal-breaker happened where they’ll never reconcile, I’d do June.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I say, if June is what you originally had wanted, then I would go for it.  Especially since you haven’t announced any dates just yet!!  Even though you will lose a month, I don’t think that will hurt you as you will be 13 months out!  I say that things are starting to fall into place for you, especially since the month you wanted was not available, but is now, I would say that is a good sign for you!!!  I wouldn’t worry about swooping into your FH’s friends time frame, they swooped out, so it is yours to take!!  Good luck!!

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    If June is what you wanted, then go for June. If you’re feeling a little awkward about it, then don’t pick June 18th. But I don’t see why any other day in June would be an issue.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    June. The biggest reason not to do it is now gone, and if your friends get back together, they really, really should not rush into getting married on the same day.

    You are in one of those positions where a coordinator is not just a luxury, it could be a lifesaver. The kind of things that you need to do in the next 6-8 months anyways (book vendors and locations) are the areas that will not be impacted by having one less month. And if you have help in these areas, you could spend more time on fun DIY projects and style things.

    Really, look into a less than full service coordination package. You will probably need someone who can give you a tour of locations, and then later a vendor day (where all the vendors are booked for a preview and brought to you).

    This really wasn’t your question, but if you are worried about planning, do this!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

    I think if they broke it off, June is fair game.  It sounds like Fh friend understood, (and hopefully appreciated that you bowed out of June out of respect for them.)  Now that they’ve cancelled, you should be free to do what you want.  If they do get back together, I think they should understand that people aren’t expected to put their plans on hold for them, for what was…now isn’t…but might be at some point in the future.

    Besides, it looks like your Fh friend gave you the green light.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    No one can "claim" a month in my opinion, my FI’s best friend went on his first date with a girl on our anniversary… that was a year ago. They hit it off and now we have the same anniversary, until we get married. It’s actually kind of convenient. We never get asked to do something with them on that day, so we don’t have to worry about friends planning things on our anniversary. hehe

    However, they did plan their wedding the day before FI’s birthday, which is a smidge annoying because Fiance and his friend are best friends.. really close. So now birthday parties and their anniversary will conflict for the rest of our lives, but hey, what are you gonna do? 🙂

    They’re not engaged anymore, any date is open to you. You can’t plan your wedding around IF someone is gonna get back together or not. Also, if I were you I wouldn’t book any vendors until I had a ring and it was official! 🙂 It’s more fun that way. 

    Post # 9
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    All signs point to June!  You have plenty of time.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Danielle, I’d definitely go with June!  It will be your wedding, so should be what you envision.  I’m partial to the 26th (our wedding date), but that might still be too humid for TN!

    Btw, congrats on graduating from Mizzou (next year)!  I love Columbia & my grandfather was a professor at the J School for years & years. 

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