Post # 1
My mom and I went wedding dress shopping today. However, we went to lunch beforehand. She mentioned that she had gotten together with my aunt to plan my cousin’s upcoming shower (I am in her wedding and she is in mine). She mentioned that my cousin is also having a candy buffet.
Now, I know that they are incredibly popular and BY NO MEANS am I the only one who will ever have this. With that being said, I am considering changing the type of favor. I love my cousin dearly, she and I are really close. The thing is…we have shared a ton of things growing up. We are three weeks apart in age and our weddings are eight months apart. When we would get the family together for our birthdays, we would always have a shared birthday. We both had the same job growing up, we both graduated from the same university. We have had a lot of similarities. I feel like I want to change it so she doesn’t think I’m copying her.
The other tough part is, I do think I told her that we were going to have a candy buffet at our wedding. I can’t remember, we were drinking wine and talking about weddings. It is definitely not about her copying me in the slightest, I am not mad because they are incredibly common. However, since we have shared so many other milestones and done a lot of other things similarly, I don’t want people to think we were copying.
What are all of your thoughts? I just want to reiterate one more time that I understand that the candy buffet concept is so incredibly popular. I am not mad at her for “stealing the idea”, because I have no claim on it whatsoever. Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I don’t think you have to change the buffet if you don’t want to. If it does bother you, however, could you coordinate with her so that you each offer different candies?
Or maybe you could come up with a different type of buffet? How about little bite sized baked good? Cookies, cupcakes, mini pies, etc.?
Post # 4
Honestly, I wouldn’t worry about it. I do like @FloretteLiz:‘s idea though to have different candies! Just talk to her about it and see if you can coordinate something a little different.
Post # 5
I think itll be totally fine, and maybe you could just make sure you have diff color and flavors and stuff like that!
Post # 6
It’s really not that big of a deal, In My Humble Opinion. Continue onward with your plans. Your weddings are 8 months apart. Maybe it’ll be a really great money saving technique and you guys can share props and stuff.
Post # 7
I think it is totally fine, just do as others have suggested and have different candy and packages to put the candy in and it will be fine.
I promise on the big day it wont matter at all 🙂
Post # 8
I love your suggestions! Luckily, my cousin’s wedding is quite a bit before ours (8 months), so I can look at hers and make it different. I also love the idea of a cookie buffet. We’re looking at having around 200 guests, so I am concerned about the expense. We could either pre-package the cookies in the chinese take-out boxes (I am in love with those!), or set them up for everyone. I saw a really cute online picture with the cookie buffet set up and mini milk shots set up next to it!
How many cookies should I plan on per person? I’m thinking we would get some cookies from the store and my family and I would make some. If we go the baking route, how soon can I start baking? We’ve got a huge freezer at home that I could fill with cookies, so that really helps, too.
I also like the idea of giving everyone a recipe book with a favorite recipe from me, the groom, our parents, and bridal party (they’re all into cooking). They could be desserts, main dishes, anything! What do you think?
Post # 9
Why not do a cookie or dessert buffet instead? Just to change it up a bit for the guests who go to both.
Post # 10
I think the recipe book is a really cute idea. You can start “baking”, probably a month before as in you could make the cookie dough then and stick it in the freezer. My freshman year of college, I made cookie dough over Thanksgiving break, brought it back with me to college and stuck it in the freezer. Then right before finals, I pulled them out, shaped into balls and baked for all my friends and professors. I’d say perhaps 3 cookies per person? You could also order bulk cookie dough from some wholesale place, if you have one in your area.
I imagine that you’ll be super busy in the days leading up to your wedding, so you want to get the actual baking out of the way. You should use recipes that will give you super soft cookies, because the longer they sit, the less soft they’ll get. Or you could just bake crisp cookies (like Tate’s) so you don’t need to worry about them. Here’s the recipe I used back then. I made 3 logs with different chips (spearmint, peppermint, toffee): http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/paula-deen/chocolate-gooey-butter-cookies-recipe/index.html
The cookies keep well (1-2 weeks I think?) and stay really soft.
Post # 11
I personally love popcorn buffets. And they come in so many colors and flavors…. seems like it would be more exciting for guests to try than candy!