(Closed) Should we Elope or have a wedding

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Elope or Ceremony
    Option # 1 Ceremony : (19 votes)
    61 %
    Option # 2 Elope : (12 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2008

    Is it important to you that any friends or family members be there? You could also have a small, intimate wedding locally, if you wanted to have a few people there, right?  Who’s to say that just because a wedding is local, it has to be a "big wedding thing?"

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you both really want to elope and don’t want to plan a big elaborate wedding, I say do it!  Have fun!  

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I voted for ceremony because my brother and sister-in-law eloped and then regretted that they didn’t have anyone else to celebrate with them immediately afterwards. That being said, maybe you can elope and then come home and have the BBQ and bonfire a week or two later?

     The beach at sunset sounds very romantic!! 🙂

    Post # 6
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Hmm, it is a tough decision.  I thought many times of canceling the wedding and just eloping.  It will probably cost you much less!  I guess just make a list of pros and cons of ceremony and eloping?  You could, as others have mentioned, maybe have a fabulous BBQ when you get back from eloping for everyone to celebrate your wedding!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

     I voted ceremony.  It sounds like the wedding wouldn’t be a ton of stress anyway.  You could always keep it small.  Eloping and just the two of you sounds romantic and intimate.  But you can cover that with a honeymoon. 

    I think it might be important to your families to witness your marriage.  Sometimes I think it’s good to bend a bit for our families.  A destination wedding is one thing.  But not having any witnesses… If one of my kids got married, without wanting "mom and dad" there, I would be really hurt.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think this is totally up to you and your fiance.  If having your family witness your ceremony is not that important to you, then elope.  If it is, then do the beach ceremony and bbq afterward.

    Post # 9
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    Blushing bee

    I can’t really vote without more information. So much depends on your particular family and on how much money and time you have to plan.

    I personally wanted to elope. But my fiance’s family would have been devastated and it would have caused long-term problems between us and them. So we’re keeping the peace and having a beach bbq wedding.

    Every situation is different. Give us more details.

    Also, you could elope and then have a big bbq/bonfire party for your friends and family afterwards. A good friend of mine did that and she said it was the best decision she ever made.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I say elope if you want to!  I always thought eloping was such a romantic idea…  and you could always have a hometown reception or big party later on to celebrate with all your family and friends.

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    What do you REALLY want to do?  You can always elope and then have a cocktail party or that bbq and show a video and have your minister bless the marriage (much cheaper and definitely less stress). 

    I say elope if you want to!  I’m behind you 100 percent with either choice and don’t think you can go wrong either way!

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Do both!

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted ceremony with your friends and family. Obviously its up to you guys, but I think there’s something powerful about announcing your commitment in front of the people you love.  But totally go and have a honeymoon in some remote place and then have the best of both worlds 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I would go with the ceremony option just because I think it’s really important to be surrounded by people who love you on your big day. =)

    It doesn’t have to be fancy, just your vows and then a BBQ (like you’ve mentioned), but you’ll have the people there who will make your wedding all the more meaningful, either by bringing a favourite salad dish, doing a reading, or just giving you a big hug and letting you know how happy they are for you! 

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch

    I voted for the ceremony, I think is so much fun when you can share it with the ones you love 🙂

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