(Closed) Should we elope?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

If you really have your heart set on having the wedding and inviting all your family members and friends to share in your special day, I say go for it! There are PLENTY of ways you can cut costs and cut corners so that your wedding isn’t an outrageous financial burden. Maybe put half the money you received from your parents toward the wedding, and half toward the honeymoon or house.

However, if you’re like me and are just having the wedding for your family members…elope. Invite your parents, have a beachside wedding and then, on your return, throw a casual shindig in your family member’s yard- maybe a cookout or something simple and cheap.

You’ll only get married once, so make it memorable. That doesn’t translate into "spend everything you have"- it just means that you should find a happy medium between making you happiest and making your wallet happiest.

Post # 4
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135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would say scale things back, maybe only have a small wedding and reception. I think that you can always cut back on things. Have a backyard reception or just cake or something.

Post # 5
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596 posts
Busy bee

My only concern about the destination wedding is that it puts a huge financial burden on your parents.  With the extra money they would be spending to travel to the Caribbean, it seems like you could throw a scaled back cocktail/appetizers only reception in your family member’s backyard and perhaps cut the guestlist to only family and perhaps a few of your closest friends?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m with the other ladies, I dont see any harm in scaling back your wedding. I think it’s a really valid concern with the economy the way it is and with it not looking like it’s changing anytime soon. It would be much more beneficial to you to put your money into some other investments.

I don’t think eloping is the best thing for you. If you were planning a wedding,  you’ll be sad to not have one in the end. But that’s just my opinion. 

Post # 8
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676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

What would make you most happy? Eloping? A destination wedding with only your  nearest and dearest? A big party with all your friends and family? In ten, fifteen, twenty years…what memories do you want to look back on? Saving money is always a good thing to do but you should be able to host a traditional wedding, should you choose that route, within a reasonable budget. You just have to be careful with your spending and not get carried away. My suggestion would be to not put anything on credit cards. Keep in mind though that a trip to the Caribbean isn’t the cheapest thing either..and if you do that and invite your parents, it might look bad if you don’t pay for their tickets seeing as how they have given you money already.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Congrats!  You’ve been very productive.  Isn’t it great when saving money means getting married sooner?

Post # 11
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484 posts
Helper bee

Man, I wish I could make decisions as fast as you! I’m envious as to how much you have accomplished in the last few days!

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