Should we fire the nanny ??

posted 6 months ago in Babies
  • poll: Should we fire her?
    Yes : (116 votes)
    85 %
    No give her another chance : (21 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 2
    1083 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1995

    Are you able to find someone else?

    If not, I would give her another try and lay out the rules.  No guests, schedule, etc. and keep an eye on things to see how she follows your rules.  

    Post # 3
    3050 posts
    Sugar bee

    lilceeja124 :  Just the fact that she let someone in your house without your authorization is cause for dismissal. Add to this everything else you mentioned, and I really don’t see any reason to give her the courtesy of a second chance.

    Post # 4
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

    If I caught my dog sitter doing this I’d be pissed… I can’t imagine if it were my child. Fool me once shame one you, fool me twice shame on me. 

    Follow your gut bee. 

    Post # 5
    4865 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Carrying him by his arms?? If you can find someone else do it asap.

    Post # 6
    329 posts
    Helper bee

    Bee!! She can’t manage his feeding schedule, carries the baby incorrectly and spends time on phone/TV a lot PLUS had someone over?! Just let her go. No second chance. Your baby is not her priority and she has proven that many ways. You pay her to watch the baby – dismiss her. 

    Post # 7
    928 posts
    Busy bee

    My first question is, were you absolutely clear with her regarding written expectations, house rules, etc? If not, then I would write up a contract this weekend and review it with her and have her sign it and clearly state that breaking any of the house rules is cause for termination. Your baby, your rules.  This is of course only if you are hesitating about firing her. 


    If you specifically told her she is not to use the tv or her phone in your child’s presence and she disobeyed your wishes on Day 1, she needs to go. I think she needs to go anyways. Rarely do 21 year olds make great nannies. And while you might be right that she wouldn’t intentionally harm your baby, it doesn’t take much “unintentional” neglect for a baby to drown, fall down the stairs or off a changing table, etc. 


    Are there other options in your area for childcare? Nanny share with a friend? In-home? 


    Post # 9
    6657 posts
    Bee Keeper

    lilceeja124 :  If you have your mom to help until you can find other help it seems an easy choice to not continue with someone who invites strangers into your home with your child and without your permission, uses a TV to occupy him,  is frequently on her phone, doesn’t carry him properly and can’t manage his schedule. No-brainer.

    Post # 10
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    lilceeja124 :  I’ve heard horror stories of parents accidentally dislocating joints, she is definitely putting your baby at risk by carrying him by his arms. She is not paying attention, she is immature, and she is having a stranger in your house. A thousand times no. This sounds like a news story waiting to happen.

    Post # 11
    6448 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    She carried the baby by the arms? That’s grounds for dismissal. I’d be apoplectic over that, as it is abuse. 

    Post # 12
    1544 posts
    Bumble bee

    The moment I discovered a random man in my house without permission from me (on her first day no less) I would have left work immediately and fired her ass on the spot. No friggin way would I play games with that bullshit. Who is this person? Why was he in your home near your baby? Is he a pedophile? A thief? You have no idea yet this woman let him waltz into your baby’s safe space. Unacceptable. Totally unacceptable. 

    Post # 13
    4534 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    lilceeja124 :  she let an unknown person into your house around your child and you would never have known if you did not have the camera surveillance. You know nothing about this boyfriend. He could be a paedophile or jacked up on ice for or all you know!!!

    That along with holding a child incorrectly would be an instant dismissal from me personally because I could not trust a person with that poor of a judgement to be responsible for the wellbeing of my child. 

    Post # 14
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    lilceeja124 :  Someone on her first day of the job is going to be on her best behavior. Letting a stranger into your home is her best behavior. Not adhering to the feeding schedule is her best behavior. Carrying your child by the arms is her best behavior.

    Even with a well experienced, fine tempered professional one mistake is all it takes to end up changing the life of your child. And she is not that.

    No, I would not give her another chance. 

    Post # 15
    161 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m questioning your husbands judgement for wanting to give her another chance. Holy shit this should not even be questioned! 

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