Should we fire the nanny ??

posted 3 months ago in Babies
  • poll: Should we fire her?
    Yes : (116 votes)
    85 %
    No give her another chance : (21 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 61
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    362 posts
    Helper bee

    sollyb :  Yeah I always saw people pick up kids under their armpits so that’s why I thought it was okay! Turns out when they’re under 3 or so you could potentially dislocate their shoulders as well by doing that. She told me to pick up with my hands around his waist or around his ribcage instead. It was a little more awkward to do but eventually I got the hang of it. 

    But I never picked up a kid under 8 by the arms, I felt nervous even holding their hands while walking. 

    Post # 62
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    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Im not agreeing with what she did as it’s shocking and I wouldn’t keep her. However hidden cameras or not disclosing them like this is very illegal. A few Airbnbs have got in huge trouble over this

    Post # 63
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    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    missviolet92 :  Because AirBnB is a business and you’re opening your home to strangers who are paying money to use your space, you’re a vendor and they’re the customer. Those are along the same grounds of not putting cameras in hotel rooms. This goes under “expectation of privacy” – bathrooms, hotel rooms, locker rooms, etc.

    If a private individual has a camera in her own home, that’s not illegal. I’m allowed to put cameras wherever I want, except the bathroom, and if someone else comes into my home, that person does not have the right to pursue legal action against me. I do not have to tell anyone what is in my home.

    Post # 64
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    1182 posts
    Bumble bee

    What, give her another chance to have a go at dislocating his shoulder? Then perhaps subsequently drop him by accident as he’s crying in pain and wiggling because of the dislocated shoulder? Then perhaps give him brain damage because she dropped him at the wrong angle?

    Its a disaster waiting to happen because she doesn’t have common sense. You can tell her not to hold babies by their arms (um.. duh?) but what happens when the next situation arises? She doesn’t have the common sense to deal with it as they arise and you cant be there to tell her how to do it every time. 

    You should explain to your husband that it’s pure luck that the first time she did that nothing bad happened. You won’t be so lucky next time and it may not be the arms thing next time. It’s a gamble using your baby’s life and health as stake. And if something was to go wrong, ask him how he would feel as he is solely responsible for the decision to give her a second chance. And your marriage is probably down the drain too because you’ll be resenting him for having made that decision despite you disagreeing.

    Post # 65
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    4763 posts
    Honey bee

    Picking baby up BY the arms? I have zero childcare experience and that just logically sounds wrong to me.  

    Didn’t feed for 5 hours?! That’s a long ass time. What the hell? 

    So many nos. I’d fire her. 

    Post # 66
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    downonmulberry I definitely agree for sure that in this case her husband is dead wrong on offering to give this nanny a second chance but the way you worded that implied that the sole reason it is her say and not the father is  because she is the mother she gets the final say and not the father is ridiculous. Last time I checked it is just as much the father’s baby too.

    Post # 67
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    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    soexcited123 :  I definitely didn’t mean to come off that way but I can see how it would. I get super heated about protecting children because to me if you don’t protect your kids then what matters. 

    Post # 68
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    1979 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    I would fire her immediately. She’s there to take care of your child, she’s carrying him by the arms, she can’t manage a feeding schedule, she’s on her phone or watching tv. Get rid of her immediately she’s not doing her job

    Post # 69
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    3210 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    missviolet92 :  that’s absolutely false. You can’t compare an AirBNB to a personal home. Hidden nanny cams are legal in all 50 states. Some states have laws against recording audio without consent/warning, but not against recording video unless in a room like a bathroom etc. where this is an expectation of privacy. 

    Post # 70
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    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    carolinabelle :  i never said i live in the states and i don’t  I have no issues with the cameras but feel you have the right to know you’re being spied on. 

    Post # 71
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    3210 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    missviolet92 :  okay well I have no idea what local laws are for you, but if OP is in the US then no, the nanny has no (legal) right to know she’s being “spied” on. 

    Post # 72
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    1477 posts
    Bumble bee

    missviolet92 :  again, the nanny is watching OP’s child in OP’s home. Her “privacy” here is way low on the totem pole of importance.  

    Post # 73
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    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    missviolet92 :  It’s not spying. They’re called security cameras. How would you feel if a guy who broke into your house complained about not knowing he was being “spied on” while he was stealing your jewelry. Someone’s home is his or her property. If you are in my house, follow my rules. If you’re watching my kids, assume you’re being watched. If I say shoes off, take them off. If you don’t like my furniture, don’t sit on it. If you don’t agree with what I have upstairs, too bad. My house, my rules. I would not care at all about offending the delicate sensibilities of anyone I’m paying to protect my child. If you have nothing to hide, you really shouldn’t mind. There is no privacy in public or someone else’s home.

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