(Closed) Should we get married or not yet?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Don’t get married if you’re not ready.

I’m 21 and so is FH. We’ve been together 2 years as well, not living together, seeing each other once a week. We’ve also discussed the money issue because FH will be the only one done with college with a job by the time we get married. I’ll still have 8 months left in school. We know that money is going to be tight and that we’re probably going to have to give up some things in the beginning, but we know this and we’re prepared for the difficulties. We know we’re ready to get married.

FH and I (well, FH) orginally said that he didn’t want to live with me before marriage because of religious reasons, but he’s going to once he graduates because it’s going to save a heap load of money. There’s no point in him moving to my city, leasing a place for 12 months when he’d only be living there three, breaking lease and having to continue to pay for those other 9 months when we’re already married and living together.

Post # 4
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I dont think you guys are ready yet, I think you need to both finish your degrees, get jobs, move in together (are you virgins? if not would it matter if you live together?) and get married when it will be less stressfull, Wedding Planning is stressful enough with out your added burdens.

Post # 5
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It might be wise to wait until you’ve both finished school, launched your careers and saved up more money.  Weddings are by no means cheap and money is root to most arguements between couples (according to statistics).  Save your relationship and yourselves the headache and the future fights and maybe wait until you guys are established and settled.  You both have a lifetime together – so, in the greater scheme of things, what’s a year of waiting, really?  Best of luck to you both 🙂

Post # 7
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel like marriage should not be limited to those who are already totally established. Don’t get me wrong, there needs to be some stability in your lives. But it sounds to me like you two are pretty level-headed. If you wait until your lives are perfect before you get married, you probably never will.

If you feel like it’s the right choice to get married now and you think the two of you can handle things, then go for it. But if you’re just considering it for him or so things will be more convenient, just wait a while.

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