(Closed) Should we give them a key?

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you think it's a good idea to let parents have a key to your home?
    yes : (67 votes)
    67 %
    no : (33 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    both our parents have a key. his parents always did, and i love it b/c they can just come over and pick up our dog or drop him off when we’re not there for weekends we go away and they need to watch him. also, in case there’s an emergency so we can’t get home (my husband was recently in the hospital and i didn’t want to leave his side), they could go walk our dog. for that reason i also gave my mom a key the other day b/c she offered to walk him. i trust our parents, they won’t snoop. and there’s not much to see if they do.

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree completely with VirginiaMarie’s comment.  My parents (and my grandparents) have a key to my place because I would forget my head if it wasn’t attatched to my body and don’t feel comfortable hiding a key outside.  They’ve never let themselves in without calling first, and even in the off chance that they would, they aren’t the snooping type.  I don’t really have anything hidden anyway.

    My FIs parents on the other hand…  His mother, specifically, would let herself in whenever she wanted, and not think twice about it.  We had problems with her in the past showing up at our door at 7am on a Sunday to “go out and get breakfast” after my Fiance and I had a night of heavy drinking.  Her feelings were hurt when I opened the door looking a mess and told her we weren’t hungry and that she had woken us up.  Anyway, I do not plan on giving her a key to our home, and would respectfully decline, but thank her, for her offer to water our plants while we’re gone.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Both sets of parents as well as several of our friends have the code to our garage door (which is the same as a key for us).  I know none of our friends are going to bother anything in our house.  His parents really aren’t the snooping type.  My mom probably is, but I figure, I’m an adult.  If she doesn’t like the things she might (or might not) find in the house then she shouldn’t snoop. 

    Having a daughter, it just makes it easier for my mom to have the code.  This way if she has to pick her up from school, they can just get in the house and I don’t have to worry about my 8 year old losing a key (cuz she would) or giving the code out to all her friends (cuz she would).

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    fi’s parents have a key and i never even thought twice about it…they’ve only used it to take our dog out when we can’t get home and things like that

    Post # 22
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Maybe we’re just less concerned than most? My brother, my good friend who dog-sits, and my parents all have the keycodes required to get into our house (you don’t need a key). I have a key to get into my brother’s house. 

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    i would give one to my mom but not to my fmil…… lol

    Post # 24
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think it’s a good idea for someone to have a key to your home in case something happens and you lose your key, are locked out, need someone to feed the dog, etc.  My ILs had a set of keys to our house and they never used them without our permission.  You need to set boundaries with your family members.

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I wouldn’t have a problem giving keys to both sets of parents. The in-laws live out of town and my parents wouldn’t stop over without calling. Not a big deal to me. Plus if there is an emergency I would rather then have keys.

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t have anything to hide, so let them snoop if they want!

    Post # 27
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    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Both his parents have a key to our house as well as his sister.  We gave them keys incase we ever lock ourselves out or something happens to ours.

    His parents live too far away right now to come over and water plants/feed cats but his sister is in our city now.  I’d trust her just as I trust his parents.  Really, I don’t have anything I don’t want them to find and I know they won’t poke around.

    I think it just really depends on the parents.  I wouldn’t hesitate to give my mom a key either if she didn’t live 3,000 miles away. 😉

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My parents will always have a key. I wouldnt have a problem with FI’s parents having a key either.  They live about 4 houses down and take out the pup if we are not home. 

    Im not really the type to worry about people coming in and looking around. In my old  house before i lived with Fiance there was like 10 friends of mine  that had keys!

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We have a code we give to people. Then if we don’t want them to have access, we change the code.  This reminds me, I need to change it- we gave it to girl who we hired to do some housework for us and is no longer.  Love that box!

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Yep, they have the keys. They all live at least 2 hours away though so unexpected visits aren’t really a concern.

     

    And if you gave them keys and they snooped and found something like sex toys, maybe that would discourage them from ever doing it again!

    Post # 31
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My parents, his dad and his dad’s gf, and my sister all have keys to our house. I know none of the would ever snoop, and my sister watches our dog when we’re not here. Its nice to know that someone can get in if we need them to, but again it all depends on the way your parents are

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