(Closed) Should we have an engagement party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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6210 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I’m pretty sure an engagement party is thrown by someone else to congratulate the newly engaged couple. So if you want to go by the standard, it’s not necessarily your call. Of course, many people do throw their own engagement parties, and in that case, I’d say the answer is “if you want to, why not?”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

You don’t really throw your own engagement party. If someone offers to have you one, then cool, but you shouldn’t plan it yourself.  We didn’t have one – and we didn’t really need it. A few times people “celebrated” with us by taking us out for coffee or lunch, just to hear the story and congratulate us. But nothing formal.

Post # 5
Hostess
11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@TogetherThroughLife:  Agreed.

We didn’t have one. Instead we had dinner with all of our bridal party so they could meet and get to know each other. Informal and low key.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You could have a simple one with cute cup cakes and some snack and drink with your close family and friends. Just let your guests know in advance that it would be a simple get together and you wouldn’t expect any gifts.

Post # 8
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LilyMarie:  Fiance and I threw our own engagement party. *GASP* I know, everyone seems to frown upon it. But for us it was just a reason to take our friends out to dinner, have a 2 hour open bar and celebrate much like our group of friends does a birthday. It wasn’t about families meeting or presents or anything else. It was just a fun night out on the town for us and our close friends. We did it our way and it was absolutely perfect. Our party was last September and people still talk about how much fun it was!

Do what you want. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We got engaged in Texas so we had plenty of time to celebrate with his family so when we got back to Vegas my mom had a family only engagement party… It was really low maintenance, we just had a little BBQ and everyone congratulated us I really enjoyed it .. It was just 4 of my aunts and their families (we did get about 600 bucks towards the wedding) but we weren’t expecting gifts 🙂

Post # 10
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1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 My SO and I would throw one ourselves I dont think we really care what others may think..If you want to have a little party of your own why not.

Post # 11
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12249 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had our engagement party the night we got engaged! Apparently all our friends knew Fiance was going to do it!

But PP is right, someone throws an engagement party for you, you don’t throw it for yourself!

Post # 12
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We chose to not have one for the same his family is out of town reason. But I’ve been to many ranging from cupcakes and pizza to formal affairs that could rival a wedding! They’ve been everything from surprises for the bride and groom, to thrown by family or the bride and groom themselves!

I think if you want to have a party, you should go for it! Who doesn’t love a reason to celebrate?!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It doesn’t have to be a big expensive deal.  I had one and it was at my parents’ house and it was immediate families and close friends/bridal party.  My mom and I made all the food ourselves.  It was a nice opportunity to get everyone together before the holidays (ours was about a year out or so) and give people the head’s up about the wedding plans.  

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