Post # 1
A thought just occurred to me – why have cake for our wedding?
A few reasons why not:
1) Mr Owlie and I are trying to keep wedding costs to a minimum.
2) We’re also planning our wedding long-distance so we’re relying on family and friends to help us out with vendors. Cutting out cake means one less to deal with.
3) I don’t really like cake! (The profile pic is misleading… I like afternoon tea, if that makes sense). Mr Owlie likes cake… but surely he could go without it for just one day? 🙂
4) Personally, I just have never thought of weddings as cake events. Birthdays, yes. Weddings, no.
What do you think? Is there a compelling reason to have a wedding cake, that you don’t think should be missed out on? Or should we just cut out the cake? Just for some context – we’re having a sit-down dinner reception, and there will definitely be dessert!
Post # 3
I think as long as there is dessert it’s not neccessary. However, if you feel as though your groom might miss out you could always get him a small groomscake 🙂
Post # 4
I think it’s expected but especially if you’re replacing it with something else at your reception (if you’re having a traditional reception), I don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing things differently.
There are tons of other options out there. You could do just a meal or hors d’oeurves. You could do candy or cookies or pie or cupcakes or your favorite dessert or an ice cream bar or anything that strikes your fancy.
Post # 5
I was recently at a wedding where the bride and her family made mini cheesecakes and also bought cupcakes from wal-mart and had raspberries and blueberries on top of them. It was so cute and I loved the idea!
Post # 6
@mwitter80: Thanks – that’s a really cute idea! You’ll have to forgive my ignorance, though, but what is a groomscake? I’ve seen that word around WB but I’d never heard of it before. We don’t have them where I’m from.
Post # 7
It’s just a little nod to the groom. A special surprise for him. For instance, my sisters husband is a gamer. She had the bride and groom figures with the word “Game Over” printed on the cake. Mine costs $120 My Darling Husband loves sushi so here was his:
Post # 8
@mwitter80: Oh, I LOVE it! Thank you. I love sushi too 🙂
Post # 9
I think just about anything goes these days! If you don’t like cake and don’t want to cough up the $$ for it, then I say don’t get one :).
Post # 10
@Owlie: Oh good. I know lots of people who do things related to the grooms favorite sports team. Or something from his college days. Good luck!
Post # 11
I think as long as you have some kind of dessert you’re fine. I think cakes are just so popular because of the “cake cutting” tradition.
Post # 12
I think that it’s becoming much more acceptable for people to go in directions other than the cake route with weddings nowadays. I went to one a few weeks ago that had tons of different truffles! If neither of you are too up on the cake thing, skip it. Come up with some other unique dessert idea.
Post # 13
You can do so many things instead of the traditional cake. Cupcake tree, desert table of pies, cheesecakes, cupcakes, cookies, brownies, etc. It is tradition to cut a cakr, so maybe you can go to a local supermarket, I know my local ones make some great cakes at a fraction of the cost, and get a small one just for you 2 to cut for pics. Since the Mr. likes cake, you can make it all about him, like a grooms cake!!