(Closed) Should we have registered for this?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I see no problem with it. We registered for some expensive items, but more for the completion bonus. When I see an item on a registry that is out of my price range, I personally have no raised eye brow, and pass no judgement at all.

Just because I can’t afford it doesn’t mean there isn’t someone on the guest list who can’t.

We registered only a month ago and already someone purchased my kitchen aide mixer (300$) and our entire dish set (200$). We actually didn’t expect those to go, but those were first! I see no problem with it, and I don’t see why anyone who loves you would judge you as “tacky” or anything else negative simply because its on a wish list. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I mean, it’s crazy expensive and I don’t think I would have put it on my registry.  But, it is a wish list and really, if anyone is bother by it, they don’t have to buy it for you!

Post # 18
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s tacky that people are making snarky comments to you about things on your registry.  We registered for a few expensive items hoping that people would go in on them together (not expecting one person to honestly shell out that much money on a gift). 

Post # 19
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Busy bee

I just think its ‘tacky’ for people to even THINK about making comments to you about it.  The have the option to buy something off your registry, or not, to spend $5, $500 or nothing at all, etc.  If all your guests think $400 glasses are stupid, then no one will buy them for you, end of story.

It just irks me because I think it probably comes down to people judging you for wanting something expensive.  Most people have SOMETHING that they are willing to spend more money on then the average person (be it vacations, shoes, cigarettes, furniture, etc).  I was actually tempted by the toasting flutes as well, for similar sentimental reasons (FI and I have been to the swarvoski museum together, and think there crystal is really beautiful, especially these glasses.  I mentioned it to my mom (just that I wish I had them, not that I was going to buy them or register for them) and she just rolled her eyes and asked why I possibly needed champagne glasses.  I should have reminded her that my Aunt purchased her full set of Waterford crystal wine glasses for her wedding, and that she has managed to acquire more expensive china than anyone could possibly need in a lifetime.     sorry… /end rant lol

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

@TealaB:ditto, I just hate it when people are so flippin’ judgmental!! 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

People are so judgemental of others. Its your wedding, you want them and maybe someone will buy them. If not you get the discount afterwards. You dont need to explain yourself to anyone either. Do what YOU want to do because its YOUR wedding. If someone doesn’t pick you apart about this they surely will find something else to pick you apart over. Thats just how people are. Go with your instincts and try not to doubt yourself. If I had the money to buy someone a gift like that, I would. And dont forget, lots of people somethings chip in to get a lager gift. It is possible you may get it.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We registered for a wooden salad bowl from Macy’s that is upwards of $100 and I felt really guilty about it for a long time after registereing. ($100?! For a WOODEN bowl?!) But my darling Mr. Madtown, and many family members including my mom, have made me feel better with all of the same advice you wonderful Bees are giving. It’s your registry. You would be thrilled to receive the glasses. If I were part of a group of people buying you a gift, how fun to get you something so extravagant! People won’t buy what’s out of their price range, but some guests really are looking to spoil the bride and groom. If someone buys it, they chose to because they wanted to. Enjoy it!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

@ddw: You know, I’d agree about making the completion discount comment if they weren’t toasting flutes. However, that is the type of gift a couple puts on there to be purchased for toasting AT the wedding.  I find that particular item to be much too pricey and can’t imagine putting it on a registry myself. I think there is a big difference between a $500 vacuum and $300+ in two glasses.

Regardless, I still think people should keep their mouths shut when it comes to talking about this to you and your fiance.  Have your opinion but keep it to yourself, you know?

If you don’t get this set, do you have a backup set for the actual wedding?

Post # 25
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Bumble Beekeeper

@christalynn11: But she collects this certain line – so whose to say she doesn’t want them even if not for the wedding?

I don’t know, I just really don’t think people should judge what someone else wants, haha.

Post # 26
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would love to see something like that on someone’s registry.  It’s not like you’re registering for dozens of expensive items…you’re being reasonable and giving people choices.  It would be a fabulous gift for a bunch of your friends to buy as a group…

Post # 27
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mrs. Tillmann, I thought of you today when someone who is planning on attending my shower made a snarky comment about purchasing a $10 spatula.  I guess the guest was put off by the idea that I expected my guests to spend $10 on just a SPATULA.  I suppose there are just some people out there who feel the need for whatever reason to criticize other people’s registries… and I don’t think it has anything to do with OUR choices as to what we’ve put on our registries, but has more to do with their own shortcomings.  I’d rather she didn’t buy the damn spatula if buying the spatula means she now has the right to b*tch about the cost of it. 🙂

Post # 28
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Its not tacky at all, we registered for a $350 stand mixer.  Its a wish list, that doesn’t mean anybody HAS to get it for you. 

Post # 29
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We registered for an expensive stand mixer too… My fiance promised that after the wedding he would purchase it for me because he couldn’t foresee anyone buying it for us.  Well, someone already bought it and they purchased it as a shower gift!  I’m thrilled!  It just proves that you should definitely have a few higher ticket price items on your registry because people might actually want to buy them!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Don’t feel guilty at all! 

We put a set of $600 pots and pans on the registry and a $200 knife set.  We figured no one would purchase them, and if they did – it would be a joint gift.  Well my aunt and her girlfriend purchased our knives as our shower gift.

As expected, no one purchased the pots and pans, so we took the gift cards and purchased them ourselves.  We had a 20% off coupon (saved $120 dollars), they were running a promo in which we received a $50 gift card for every $300 spent on Calphalon products (so we received $100), and then we received a free pot w/ the purchase ($150 pot).  Wih the gift cards and money we received from the shower, we only spent $250 on the pots!!!!!  And we were able to use the $100 gift card to pay for our silverware which was $100.

 

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