Post # 1
The women who actually “helped” Fiance and I meet in college is a florist and has offered to do our flowers. I have no idea at what cost/discount and she’s out of town until July.
While I’m grateful for the offer, I’m a bit apprehensive. She constantly throws it in our faces that it’s because of her we met (we would have met anyway – our college department was small!) and whenever she sees us with a group of people, she has to barge in and announce it to everyone. It used to be cute, but after five years, it’s old. Sometimes she contracts out Fiance to work for her, and when she pays him little or less than expected, she says, “I did bring you two together!”.
I’m concerned that she may even over-charge us or try to sway us from what we want, saying “It’s because of me you’re getting married” (which she has already said to us). Part of me wants to get a back up florist, but I’d hate to go behind her back without speaking to her first. But, I don’t want to wait until after July. We only want flower petals in mason jars as center pieces, bouquets for BMs and myself, and boutonnières for Fiance and his Groomsmen. I have a feeling she’s going to want to drown us in flowers and not listen to us.
Post # 3
It sounds like your gut instinct tells you NOT to hire her. I’d agree. I also think it’s usually a bad idea to have friends or acquaintances do major things for your wedding (food, cake, flowers, etc.) because you cannot fire your friends. There’s no nice way to tell your friends you hate their food/cake/floral design. Also, if she think she’s “helping” she may not write up a real contract, then what would you do if she didn’t show/showed up late/didn’t bring the right flowers/you hated the flowers/etc.?
Post # 4
If I were you, I’d pass her offer. If she’s already making your Fiance pay more than expected I wouldn’t think she’d give you guys a discount for the flowers. It’d also be one more things to hold over your heads. You can always try and get a quote from her, for ideas, but in my opinion I don’t think it’d be a good idea to use her for the flowers.
Post # 5
@BetterSherm: I think in your shoes I would probably find another florist. You don’t want to have to argue with your friendors or deal with any unnecessary stress. You can always tell her you want her to be able to sit back and enjoy the wedding without being burdened by the flowers or something like that.
Post # 6
Go with your gut on this one. You could say “we appreciate the offer but we do not want family/friends to do work for our wedding.”
Post # 7
Always go with the gut! There’s a reason it’s telling you what it’s telling you!
Post # 8
Is she invited to the wedding?
Post # 9
Ugh the girl who set my husband and I up is like that and while I’m so grateful to her there comes a point where I don’t even want to talk to her! Let alone hire her to work for me.
Post # 10
@WillyNilly: She invited herself before we even got engaged. It’s out of guilt and obligation that’s invited.