Should we invite fiance's ex- girlfriend to our wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1779 posts
Buzzing bee

I would say no. 


Too much potential for drama. That is, unless the daughter really needs or wants her there.

Post # 3
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

If they have a child together, I think it is okay to invite her. Especially if it will break ties or make the daughter feel “in the middle” if you don’t invite her. However, since the daughter is a grown adult I don’t think it is really necessary. She can come with her own family/ loved ones. It is really up to you and your fiance. 

Post # 4
930 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Given the age of the daughter, no I wouldn’t invite her.  

Both myself and FI are good friends with my ex H – we socialise with him and his GF quite regularly, and myself and ex H have apartments in the same building! – but when FI and I marry he won’t be invited.

I asked ex H about it when we got engaged, and he said it would be too weird.  

Post # 5
5643 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010


Post # 6
195 posts
Blushing bee

Agree with pp’s, no she should not be invited. Awkward…

Post # 7
980 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Hmm. The daughter is grown so I don’t think it’s necessary but I suppose it’s a nice gesture.

My FI has a son with an ex girlfriend. She and I get along well. We’re inviting her and her FI because it would do nothing but cause problems if we didn’t. 

Post # 8
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993


Post # 11
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Don’t do it. She has no need to be there. Start your marriage with boundaries in place.

Post # 12
4046 posts
Honey bee

wifetobee63:  “I know that she has always had feelings for him.”

Then no, just no …<br /><br /><br />

Post # 13
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

FI and I joked about inviting his ex too. We are cordial and have socialized in the past, but I feel it would be awkward for her, us, the kids and the mutual friends, so in the end we didn’t

Post # 14
3 posts
  • Wedding: May 2015

No way. 

Post # 15
5147 posts
Bee Keeper

wifetobee63:  No, when my husband and I got married, the last person we thought to invite was my ex.

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