Should we move or do I need to suck it up?

posted 3 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
580 posts
Busy bee

I’m on Team Move. 

Post # 3
145 posts
Blushing bee

 I would move as well.

Post # 4
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

blueberrycupcake28 :  Move. Yesterday. Your debt will eventually be paid off no matter what, but you can’t put a price on safety. The aggression will only get worse. I work in a very dangerous area and walk several blocks from the garage to the hospital. The street is lined with cop cars to make sure we don’t get hurt. I wouldn’t be able to sleep if I had to live in that area.

Post # 5
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I read through your entire post. A lot of stuff here. 1) 200 square feet for two people a dog and a pet mouse isn’t enough space. 2) if you don’t feel safe, then you should move and yes 3) your safety is worth an additional $200 a month no questions asked. If you’re working full time you should be able to well afford it.

My concern here is basically dropping school to work full time. I think this will detract you away from your main goal right now and may set back other goals.

You and your honey may need to reprioritize your debts and take the hit as it were until you can finish school. Putting off school to work full time is a temporary solution. Just try to keep things in perspective, what is the most important thing for you right now? To be comfortable right now or finish school? Don’t lose sight of the big picture. 

I hope you figure it out bee, good luck. 

Post # 6
712 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would also move.

Post # 7
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Definitely move!!!

Post # 8
942 posts
Busy bee

Get the heck out of there!  As PP said, you can’t put a price on safety and if you have essentially become a prisoner in your own home, that’s a problem.  It also sounds like you’ve been lucky to not experience actual physical harm yet.  Honestly, the extra $200 in the big picture will be worth it for your piece of mind.  

Post # 9
257 posts
Helper bee


Feeling safe in your own home is one of those things you need in order to excel in other aspects of your life. And yes, that includes walking near your home.

Post # 10
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Time to move. 

Post # 13
1388 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I would move.

Post # 14
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would move,  you shouldn’t feel unsafe in your neighborhood. I live in “the hood” as well, and walk my dog regularly and have never gone through what you have.  And by saying I love in the hood,  I hear gunshots constantly and no one from work beloved me what I say the part of town live in,  but I love my rental house and the neighborhood in the immediate vicinity.  Yes there are project within a mile,  but most of the bad stuff happens there,  I feel pretty safe a mile away.

Anyway,  I know it’ll be difficult,  but have you considered finding a roommate situation.  I know it’s nice live g on your own and it’ll be hard to rent a room to both of you and the pets. But it’s worth a shot if you can’t otherwise afford to live on your own and hopefully it’ll allow you to live on a safer part of town. 

Post # 15
83 posts
Worker bee

Move! Shop around. In my area which is low cost of living I considered a less desireable area to save money but opted not to because I’m extremely safety conscience. I found a duplex that was less monthly than any of the other apartments I had found and it was in a much safer area. Of course my city and the surrounding towns are strange. One side of the road will have a trailer park and the other will have 500,000+ Luxury houses. Go around the corner and you’ll find average two story 2 garage houses just blocks from government housing and projects. It’s crazy really and I’m sure it makes the property value unusually high or low as well. 

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