- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
We plan on going on a Disney Cruise after our wedding in December. It’s costing us about 3500.
Which is a big chunk of change for US. We both still live at home with our respective parents, and the situation is less than desirable even now. His parents, (I do love them) are super protective and over-bearing and frankly, even though things have vastly improved since we started dating, after spending over 4 years with this man, I am tired of hanging out in the living room with his parents for lack of better things to do!
We are both going nuts. We planned on moving in together in October in order to save as much as possible for the wedding and honeymoon before then, but lately we really just want out of our parents homes.
I’m really not sure how the finances will go. I know that we will save a ton (rent will be around 700) staying at home as long as possible, but there are circumstances for both of us that make living with our parents hell right now. My dad works nights and likes to sleep on the couch in the living room, sometimes straight into his night shift, which means I basically am limited to my bedroom and he can barely ever come over my house, so we won’t disturb my dad.
So for me, I have to be careful about being quiet at home, can’t cook in the kitchen when he is sleeping, which is more often than I’d like (our dog barks when we are in there with food), can’t have people over… and for him, he sleeps in his living room on a couch (long story, his grandfather needed his bed after an operation and he has remained without ever since) and his parents are constantly disturbing him when he’s trying to sleep by banging things in the kitchen at ungodly hours.
It’s just a mess. We can’t stand living at home anymore. If we would nix the honeymoon, we would be able to swing moving out in August or so a lot easier.. but if not, I know I would be sad and disappointed after our wedding and that’s not really how I wanna feel after our wedding!
Any one have any input or advice? Would you throw away the honeymoon you’ve been dreaming about for months in order to move in together a few months earlier?
Our lifestyles will be VASTLY improved when we are finally living together, but I just can’t decide.