(Closed) Should we offer to pay for my fiancé's family?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

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akane86:  If either set of parents thinks any parents “should” pay for any part of the wedding, they’re mistaken. It’s the 21st century. Most couples are out of the house with jobs and homes long before getting married and should therefore be responsible for paying for their own wedding. If any parents WANT to contribute and are able to, that’s a wonderful gift to the couple, but nobody is obligated to. So in my opinion, yes, you should pay for guests in excess of what your parents offered to pay for. It’s not appropriate to ask his family for money, and if his family thinks it’s weird that you are paying (instead of your family paying)…. well that’s pretty ballsy of them and ironic.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with Daisy Mae, but I never would have agreed to limit my family and have inlaws have many more.   I would tell fiance, this will not fly.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

No, neither set of parents are obligated to help pay for the wedding, but I would have never agreed to invite a bunch of people I didn’t want to my wedding if I was the one paying for it.  If you’re footing the bill, you get to choose who to invite.  Are you doing this just to stay on your MIL’s good side?

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