(Closed) Should we pay for hotel rooms for bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we pay for lodging for the bridesmaids?
    Yes. You should pay for lodging for both nights for each of the girls. : (3 votes)
    8 %
    No. You should let them pay for their hotel rooms. : (30 votes)
    75 %
    You should pay for 1 night for each of the girls and let them pay for the other night. : (6 votes)
    15 %
    Other. Please tell me your idea. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think they probably expect to pay for their own rooms. If you want to be generous, pay for their rooms & make it their thank you gifts for being your bridesmaids. 

    Post # 4
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    As of right now I’m not paying for them.  Even if they were not my Bridesmaid or Best Man they still would’ve been invited to my wedding and had to find accomodations.  When the time gets closer if I have extra money I could probably help.

    Post # 5
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I am only having one bridesmaid so that I can afford to pay for her dress and hair and other wedding related expenses.

    That said, I am not paying for her accomodation.  She lives 4 hours away away and will be staying with her parents while here.  That said, if she had to find other accommodation I probably would of offered to pay for it, or for her to stay with me.

    So I guess it depends on the situation.

    Post # 6
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    It is nice and generous if you do, but certainly not required.

    Post # 7
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It’s not required. I don’t think they would expect you too, either.

    Post # 8
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve been a bridesmaid in 9 weddings and have never had my hotel room paid for, nor have I expected it to be. You definitely don’t need to- that’s a big expense.

    Post # 9
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We paid for our wedding party’s room the night before, they were responsible for getting a place to stay the night of.

    It’s up to you, I do not think it’s a requirement.

    Post # 11
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I wouldn’t expect to have my room paid for, so I wouldn’t do it if I were you. If you want to, go ahead but I doubt they will have my problem if you don’t. 

    Post # 12
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think your obligated to. Since our wedding was a few hours away and everyone needed to be there Fri night for the rehersal we paid all the bridal party friday night, and saturday night they paid.

    Post # 13
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Its up to you.. I am paying for the night before.  And they will be paying for the night of.

    Post # 14
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Paying for their own rooms is something they should be doing not you. 

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