- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
My FI’s parents and brother lives in another state (about a 7 hour drive). He wants to “make sure” they get here by financing their ENTIRE TRIP. Car rental or plane tickets and hotel. He is also talking about purchasing his Mom’s dress and his brother’s tux.
I feel that everyone has known for a while now that we were getting married. We have also already informed everyone of the date. They should make the proper arrangements to get here (and ensure that they are dressed appropriately for the wedding). This expense was not in the budget, and I think that it is unfair, especially since my Father is helping us pay for our wedding.
Not to mention his family is not contributing anything to the wedding!! NOTHING!!! NADA!!! I asked him were they going to do the rehearsal dinner, and his answer was simply “probably not”, so I cut it. We are rehearsing, then going out to eat–everyone is responsible for themselves. But I know his Mom is going to pull a fast one and say I know one of my sons is going to take care of me.
I hate to sound rude, but it is OUR DAY, I think that we should only have to focus on us for OUR DAY. They have eight freakin months to get themselves together and make a 7-hr car trip. His Mom even had the nerve to say, “why won’t y’all just get married at the courthouse so everyone won’t have to spend all this money?”
Am I wrong for telling him that we are not going to pay for it?