Post # 1
Kinda shocked that I’m even writing this but here we are. My wedding is scheduled for April 4th in Chicago and we are seriously considering postponing due to coronavirus. Our guests are about half local, half traveling from out of state, with one VIP family member located in the UK. This wasn’t even on my mind 48 hours ago but we’ve started getting questions from guests who are concerned (although no cancelations yet). The Europe travel ban that was just announced and the possibility of additional travel restrictions and possible guidelines against gatherings are making us seriously wonder if we should try to postpone our wedding for later this year.
For those of you with weddings scheduled for the near future, how are you making the decision on whether or not to postpone? And if you are postponing, how far out are you pushing your wedding? I don’t know when all of this might be over. I think I’m kind of in a state of shock right now.
Post # 2
No, I would just get married with who ever can make it. We don’t know how long or how much worse this could get
Post # 3
So sorry about what you’re going through.
I haven’t talked this out with FH yet. My dad and his mom already have flights booked. I am having a mini internal freakout every day. I am leaning toward doing whatever wedding we can, even if we’re wearing masks at the courthouse, and do a vow renewal later if need be.
Life has to go on, and if the virus affects one of us or our family, it’s logistically easier to deal with as a married couple. (Health insurance, taking time off for what your employer qualifies as family, access at hospital, etc)
My thoughts are with you and anyone impacted by this awful situation
Post # 4
I thnk pp above is right, go ahead and get married on your date by any means possible, with whatever guests possible . When this is all over, or next year or whenever, have a big reception.
I am sorry . I probably have to cancel my already booked Bali holiday but that is nothing by comparison !
Post # 5
I agree with what the PP said
Post # 6
Nope. Getting married 4/25. Whoever can make it, can make it. I have a feeling this hysteria will blow over by April. Fingers crossed!
Post # 7
it’s not hysteria. One of my close friends in Northern Italy says things are terrible over there… in part because of all of the people who dismissed this as just another flu.
Post # 8
I highly doubt a global pandemic will “blow over” by April. Many of the current quarantine measures already stretch into April and all evidence suggests the situation in other European countries, the UK and the US will only escalate.
OP given the current modeling and projections I wouldn’t postpone. You’re probably likely to have more problems later. Just push on as is and try and make the best of it! It is awful timing but I’m sure you’ll still have a lovely day.
Post # 9
You’re basically looking at three weeks out from now. That is not enough time for things to improve. Make your decision with the likely expectation of this having spread more not less or having resolved. I wish, but no.
I think people who are considering postponing their events are completely justified in considering it. With the risk of quarantine looming, I would be concerned about cancelation happening whether I want it to or not. I live in CT where there is now a ban on official gatherings for a hundred people or more. I don’t think this applies to churches or weddings (yet) but schools can’t run their plays or concerts. It’s possible that venues might be closing their doors soon if restrictions continue to tighten up. I’m not talking about fear of getting sick or personal hysteria. I’m talking about state and federal responses that are out of our hands.
Planning to carry on is perfectly valid too. You could be hopeful that venues will remain open and you can plan to move forward with whoever is able and willing to attend. What do you feel more comfortable doing? You shouldn’t feel judged either way. Either choice is a valid choice.
Post # 10
The UK is specifically exempted from the travel restrictions.
Post # 11
The hysteria? Wow.
I am in Madrid. Spain has over 2,000 cases of which over half are in Madrid alone, which is a small city to have that many cases. All schools and offices are closed. This is scary! We are heading into the unknown. Our healthcare can’t cope. A friend went to hospital for an unrelated illness and couldn’t be seen because the priority at the moment is this virus.
It is shit here. Really shit. There is no food in our supermarkets. We are being told to only travel if completely necessary. Our lives are completely on hold at the minute.
Post # 12
I’m really glad you posted this. The denial here in the states about the consequences of this spreading is absolutely aggravating. This is much more contagious and hardy a virus than was initially reported. Further spreading and compromising of social function is very likely. I’m sorry that you’re stuck in the thick of it. The difficulty of just getting food is real. I hope you’re able to get what you need and get through this ok.
Post # 13
I know there is no restriction on travel from the UK at the moment, but 24 hours ago there was no restriction on travel from most parts of Europe, so I’m not confident that travel from the UK will still be allowed a few weeks from now. My sister, who is one of my best friends, lives in England and I don’t think I’d want to go through with a wedding if she wasn’t there. Another option is for her to come over here early (like in the next few days) to get ahead of any possible upcoming travel ban, but I’d hate for her to do that and then not be able to get home.
Post # 14
The death rate in northern Italy for people in their seventies is 20%. In their eighties it is 40%. I don’t know about you but I LIKE my parents and grandparents. There is literally no difference between us and northern Italy in terms of preparedness and on the trajectory (where we seem to be tracking them) we are about 12 days out from when they imposed a complete national shut down and a ban on retail commerce.
Post # 16
I don’t know if everyone has heard, but the CDC has adjusted its report about the “shelf life” of the virus. They originally said that it cannot survive on sterile surfaces for more than 24 hours. That’s now been adjusted to 72 hours. We have an airborne virus that can survive on contact surfaces for three days. That makes for an exponentially more infectious situation than originally reported which is why it is spreading more quickly and stubbornly than originally projected. This not ebola. We don’t need to panic that we’re all going to die. But the elderly and those with weak immune systems or respiratory illnesses (asthma or prior history of pneumonia which leaves scarring) are very much at risk of needing medical intervention and there are deaths happening. Still, the main thing that people must keep in mind is that this is stubbornly contagious. It is spreading. So all of the inconveniences that accompany the spread of the virus: quarantine, businesses and schools dhut down are spreading too. Then add in hospitals getting overwhelmed and medical care not so readily available, food and other necessities running low as shipments slow down…those side effects aren’t just inconveniences. That’s serious impact. This isn’t panic. This is just what’s happening.
I’m a biologist with graduate studies in virology at Stanford. I’m not just making this stuff up. I’m so disappointed in the medical professionals who are downplaying the contagion factor and are entirely downplaying this. They’re not helping anyone with their poo-pooing of this situation.
ETA to agree with personaperson. The mortality rates are also higher than projected. Are we ok with “it’s only killing the elderly?”. Really? People fighting cancer aren’t fairing too well either. This is not your friendly neighborhood flu.