Should we postpone our wedding? (coronavirus)

posted 8 months ago in Logistics
Post # 16
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Newbee

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sassy411 :   The question is for how long… I’m Europe based (not UK) and was supposed to attend a wedding in California in April. I’m heartbroken I will not be able to be there but I sure want the couple to go ahead and get married. We celebrate later :-)! 

Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

Sorry guys, not trying to discredit the severity of the affects. I’m just saying as I sit on a flight right now, people who don’t want to fly seem a little nonsensical to me unless they are elderly or immunocompromised. It would be nice if they could come, but I’m continuing the wedding with or without them unfortunately. 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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mellybee561 :  it also could be that they can carry it to people that they love. It might not be that they are afraid of dying, but they are afraid of carrying it to their loved ones who are at high risk for complications.

Then there’s the risk of catching it and having to be in quarantine, out of work for two weeks. Even if the case is mild. It’s not just the affects of the illness. It’s missed work. If your kid gets it, it’s missed work to keep the kid home. If another kid gets it in the school district, the school could shut down, then the parents have to miss work

Do I think there’s a panic going on? Absolutely. People are stealing supplies from hospitals. Cold medicine and toilet paper are all sold out, people are only thinking of themselves. I do believe that there is a panic going on.

But I believe there are necessary precautions going on as well. This has been devastating to other countries, they are trying to stop that from happening here. I wouldn’t write off people being cautious as being hysterical, or being annoyed with them for not wanting to attend large functions, they are just trying to be safe.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

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mellybee561 :  

You have a right to your choices of course, but remember that those who choose not to travel may base their decision on the fact that they are in contact with the elderly and/or immunocompromised.  Or maybe they just don’t want to be the vector that carries and spreads the virus to their entire work office.  Incubation period is two weeks and people are contagious before symptoms manifest.  My husband was going to attend a convention that was just cancelled.  Had he attended and picked up the virus there and then carried on working until he had symptoms severe enough to warrant getting tested for covid19, he would have already exposed more than 350 families in our town.  He’s a music teacher who teaches all 350 kids in grades 4-6.  It’s not just about him.  But add to that, he’s got an immunocompromised wife with a history of recurring pneumonia.  I’d really like to not get this.

I guess I find your comment to be a bit dismissive and judgmental of those taking precautions.  It doesn’t seem like you’ve thought through the domino effect here.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

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Sansa85 :  agreed! I get what you’re saying. Hysterical was the wrong word to use for the average person and I’m sorry if I offended. My point is my wedding is happening no matter who can come. I personally am not postponing in reference to the original question. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

My wedding is April 3 and I’m in the same boat. Noone has said anything to me yet but 40 of 46 of our guests are out of state. My parents are flying in and my dad has cancer. Many of our guests are 60+.
my final payment is due March 20. My wedding coordinator has not gotten back to my fiancé, but I do not want to pay until last minute because who knows if my family will be able to come. If I had to push it, I would probably do October and cross my fingers. Keep me posted!! 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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londongirl1988 :  I am sorry for what you are experiencing, however you are experiencing the fall out of people going into hysterics and panicking instead of using rational thought processes.  

 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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ichliebe :  It depends on how important it is to you to have a big wedding with all your guests. I think it’s very likely that people will be avoiding travel and avoiding big gatherings in 3 weeks. Your wedding will likely be much much smaller than initially planned. If you can roll with that and still enjoy it, go for it. If you think it would essentially be ruined by not having most people there (understandable!), I would reschedule. You could even elope right now and then have a celebration / marriage ceremony in 6 months or whatever. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

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justanormalgal :  I work with a lot of public health officials and what you’ve said is just not correct. This is *not* just like the flu. The mortality rate is much higher than we thought, around 6% in Italy compared to0.1% for the flu. 16% of cases are going to end up in a critical state, needing vents etc. The death rate is expected to rise as cases rise because we don’t have the medical capacity to ventilate that many people. There is also a genuine believe among public health experts that part of the reason it is predicted to get much worse in the next 6 weeks or so is because the public are being under-cautious and complacent about what is a genuine pandemic. 
I don’t say this to frighten people but because we have to expect to significantly moderate our behaviour and lives over the next few months (in Europe at least, I am less sure about America). I’ve been in briefings where experts are genuinely planning for hundreds of thousands of deaths in my city. So, please don’t call people hysterical when you don’t have the facts. 

 

OP – in answer to your question. Best guess is that this will have died down by July. Nothing is certain as we don’t understand how it is mutating currently, but by July is what I have been briefed to also.

Edited to add: Covid-19 can shut down people’s organs and we’re not quite sure why, but when this happens (which is a minority of cases), it has been shutting down people’s kidneys, lungs and then brain. So anyone with pre-existing kidney or respitory problems may be more at risk. This isn’t medical advice, people need to talk to their own doctors, but just to say that it is not only elderly people at risk. Individuals with underlying health conditions may not want to travel to a wedding, and their close loved ones may not ether. Sending you love OP – this is a difficult situation for sure. 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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justanormalgal :  stop saying this. Medical professionals with PhDs who are the worldwide experts on epidemics are recommending social distancing so that shit doesn’t hit the fan here like is in Italy, South Korea, etc. You are being seriously irresponsible by peddling a false narrative. 

Post # 27
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Blushing bee

Postpone the wedding if you want your original wedding experience and plan, if you truly dont care if it ends up being 10% of your guest list or 0% if they ban ALL social gatherins in event spaces (not just 250+) then go ahead

This absolutely sucks and I am sorry you and any other bride affected is going through this but sadly this is getting worse by the hour right now with no answers and no big break throughs 

Anyone who thinks this will be handled and blown over by April (less than 3 weeks away) is being naive and stupid. This will not be contained and life will not be back to normal after a pandemic in a matter of 17 days.. use your head people.

 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee

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justanormalgal :  you are being a complete idiot and this tought process is exactly why this became a pandemic to begin with and why italy is now in utter devastation that will send their country into a recession that will take years to come back from..

educate yourself.. it’s embarassing 

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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KittyYogi :  they have a confirmed case in the hospital next door, our hospitals share a hallway. They have a guard at the door, no one is allowed over here and we aren’t allowed over there. This isn’t a public panic, these are health officials, like you said, trying to slow the spread of the virus to avoid being overrun and running out of resources for people who are hit the hardest

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Just deleted because-yeah.

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