Should we postpone our wedding? (coronavirus)

posted 6 months ago in Logistics
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Every guest who gets exposed at your wedding (and there will be people carrying the virus at your wedding) will go out and expose dozens, perhaps hundreds, of other people before s/he (the guest) develops symptoms and sees the need to isolate. Some of those exposed people will die. Many of them will further burden the already overburdened healthcare system. They will all expose others. 

Cancel the wedding until further notice. Get married at city hall if the need to be married is urgent. I’m sorry for the collapse of your plans, but all our plans are collapsing, like the stock market, due to a pandemic and total denial and lack of preparation/effective response by our government, among others. We’re in a lot of trouble.

Post # 47
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Buzzing bee

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ichliebe :  since deposits are involved, I would play it safe and wait for next spring.  People, families, and businesses may need time to get in the swing of things again.  People may be screwed over financially if their place of work shuts down due to quarantine.  Financial consequences will play a role here too.  And people may end up using up their PTO if they gut stuck under quarantine when their workplace isn’t.  Not to mention those who actually get this and will spend time recovering and possibly have medical bills.  I’m really hoping for a vaccine soon.

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper

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gimmepretty :  Very good point about PTO and financial implications impacting guests’ ability to travel even months down the road. 

Post # 49
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Honey bee

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gimmepretty :  I conceded already. JFC.

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee

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zl27 :  

Hey, I’m sorry if it was overkill.  My exasperation has to do with carelessness and selfishness expressed by several posters, such as the bargain flying woman.  And I thought you were conceding limited local spread by droplets rather than the concern of wider airborne spread.  But really, really, truly. I’m sorry it came across like a fight.  And normally, who cares if people disagree.  I’m just shocked at the many comments that have criticized people’s efforts for caution.  That’s why I was so ….hmm.. passionate about expressing the risk of contagion.  Sorry again.

Post # 52
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Bumble Beekeeper

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ichliebe :  Good for you, Bee, that’s great news. Here’s hoping your vendors and VIPs are all available for late summer/early fall. 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee

ichliebe :  I’m really glad to hear that your vendors are working with you.  I would push it back as far as possible to be sure you don’t still have lingering covid19 complications.  Who knows how long it will take to run its course.

Post # 54
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Busy bee

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ichliebe :  I would push it back as far as possible! Just started a threat about my July wedding and peopel are saying they wouldnt even go to that… I would considersuper Late Fall or next year!

I’m so sorry…Ive nearly been in tears thinking about my July wedding this year, couldnt imagine it being this close! good luck bee

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee

For what it’s worth, the CDC contacted officials in CT to inform them that they expect covid19 to hit and spread here over the next few weeks.  Our superintendent preemptively closed our school district down for the next two weeks.  We’re not quarantined and I hope this will help reduce spreading.  But, here it is, my husband can’t go to work.  The contract assumes a certain number of days worked.  I don’t know if teachers will take a pay cut over this.  That would certainly affect our ability to attend a wedding ☹️. We’ve already put a halt on our family vacation for July.  Too much in the air re the virus and now possible pay cut.  We’re not going to be the only ones.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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ichliebe :  I’m the maid of honor in a wedding that was supposed to be next Saturday- and the bride and groom also made the decision today to postpone. My friend similarly described a feeling of relief at making the decision to postpone. I feel relieved too, not to have to make the choice between traveling when it feels ill-advised, and disappointing my best friend by skipping her wedding. I think you are doing the right thing!

Post # 57
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Honey bee

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gimmepretty :  apology accepted. I’ve been pretty gung ho on here about how serious this all is so I am extra sensitive too. Until today, all the science articles I read said not airborne and differentiated between large droplets (e.g. six feet) and what we now know is true.

Eta: he may be able to collect unemployment. Check your local laws.

Post # 58
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Busy bee

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ichliebe :  I wouldn’t book anything before August if you actually want people to attend. This isn’t just going to be a few weeks and done situation

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2020

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milaknot :  this is my answer as well!

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Depends on your sitatuation, in my case I don’t even want a wedding and don’t care who will make it as I don’t like weddings in general. We were planning of having a reception just to make our family happy (who we love and respect) but if no one can make it (and it’s out of our conrol) it would not upset me at all and we would probably cancel the whole thing. We will probably even use that as an excuse for not planning anything. I am more concerned about my 4 week honeymoon next year lol. HOWEVER, if it’s important for you, then you HAVE TO postpone, it’s an easy as that. No one can tell you what to do. But if your VIPs can’t come and you can’t imagine not having them at your ceremony then obviously you will have to cancel. Strangers on the internet can’t read your mind 😉 Listen to your heart. Also, please make sure to stay selfless and not self-centered. Do you really want other guests who might be elderly risk their health for your “big” day? What if they get stuck somewhere because of the travel ban? I almost got stuck in Europe while travelling home to North America. It was sheer panic. I wish I hadn’t travelled in the first place.

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