Should we postpone the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
741 posts
Busy bee

How much would you have to spend to continue with the current date? Are there things you could cut out?

Post # 6
7418 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Do you know if anyone has booked travel yet?  If any of your guests have already spent money on airfare (which usually isn’t refundable) then it would be really unfair to cancel on them, and you may be better off cutting back on some of the wedding stuff to save money but honoring your date.

Post # 7
6441 posts
Bee Keeper

hermommyhisfiancee :  You can definitely find ways to cut that $25K budget….that’s incredibly expensive now that your husband has no job and you’re expecting.  I would try to cut it to $10K if possible.

Post # 8
3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would still go through with it, but cut as much as you can.

Often people look at it like “losing deposits”, but really, you’re just NOT paying the remainder, which is usually at least half if not more. Ideally you get some money back, but it’s not detrimental to have paid a few thousand in deposits if it saves you from paying a further $10k.

Something like a limo and cake should be smaller items in general. What about DJ?

At the reception, can you skip centerpieces or decor?

eta – While you should absolutely NOT count on it at all, you will probably get some monetary gifts as well. Obviously no reason to go over budget, but it might help ease some of your baby woes for after the wedding. Congrats btw!

Post # 9
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

hermommyhisfiancee :  How far along are you?? Would you still be able to keep your original date and squeeze in your bridal gown???? i think you should just go with it , Planning a wedding with a new born will be more difficult than you think… Just try and get it out the way and have it in may I am sure it will all work out fine!!!!! Also if your planning on postponing I think your too late in the game to ask your  vendors to reschedule , They might charge you a fee and I cant see them giving you any money back…. I know this because i had to postpone my wedding at one point but gave everyone 10 month notice and I barely got by with my vendors I pretty much had to beg them…. My sister was expecting and her due date was on my wedding day and she was my bridesmaid!!! It was the most stressful thing in the world postponing it.. 

Post # 10
741 posts
Busy bee

hermommyhisfiancee :  I would look at what that 8k has gone on and where the other 17k would have been allocated in the original plan.  

Just with the contribution from your parents you would have a budget of 16k, which in my opinion is more than enough.  I would see which things you can cancel or downgrade and go for a more modest wedding.  

I don’t think you should have two weddings.

Post # 11
2516 posts
Sugar bee

The way I understood the OP, the total budget is 25k but only 9k of that will be paid by her & her fiance. If that’s the case, what are those out of pocket costs exactly? Is there any way to cut back to a $15k wedding that the parents can cover? You say the reception package is the cheapest available – is that the cheapest offered by the venue? Is it mandatory that you pay a minimum? Woudl it be possible to do appetizers instead of a full meal, or do beer/wine instead of full bar, or skip decorations and do store-bought flowers, or an ipod rather than a DJ? Limo definitely could be skipped. 

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