- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Crud. I have another invitation etiquette question I’m not sure how to address. (Does anyone else feel like they normally have a good sense of manners and have lost ALL PERSPECTIVE in this process?)
FH is very good friends with an older woman and her brother, both of whom used to work with him. Both of them are invited and coming to our wedding. Yay!
The woman, a widow, hosts regular Sunday dinners with friends at her house. We go over there about once a month. Often joining us are her son and his fiancee, who are getting married about 4 months after us. They’re great people; we’ve commiserated a lot about wedding planning, and we like them a lot. That said, we’ve never spent time with them outside these dinners and consider them more friendly acquaintances than friends for the time being.
Son’s fiancee just sent me a FB message asking for my mailing address to send a save-the-date for her wedding. I now feel terrible, because FH and I didn’t invite them to ours. If I had understood from our conversations that they meant to invite us, I would have made sure to reciprocate, but I didn’t and now our wedding is 3 weeks away and we’re perilously close to fire capacity.
My fiance thinks we now “have” to invite them. I think it would be a nice gesture if we can do it, but I don’t think we have to invite. (Actually, I’m getting a little sick of the idea that anyone “has” to be invited, but that’s just me being cranky.) What do the bees say? xx