(Closed) Should we reschedule our wedding for a 21st birthday the following day?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
10310 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

He isn’t even 21 until the next day. Why can’t he party with his friend’s that night or the next weekend? I wouldn’t reschedule my wedding for this. 

Post # 3
1824 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think that would be ridiculous, personally.  The “you get one day” wedding theory also applies to birthdays!  Why does he need a whole weekend for his birthday?? However, I suppose it doesn’t matter what I think.  It matters what your fiance thinks.  If he (and his family) are going to be irrationally upset about it and ruin your wedding, then it might be easier to change it and give up the deposit.

Post # 4
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Absolutely not – it isn’t his birthday. And if he can’t legally drink until 8am the next morning then, really, what’s the big deal? How late is your reception going to last? Midnight? 

Post # 5
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

i wouldn’t

Post # 7
1591 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

No, that’s insane. A 21 year old should be old enough and mature enough to realize the day before his birthday doesn’t belong to him.

Post # 10
8070 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Nope! He wont even be able to drink that day, so no point.

Post # 11
5947 posts
Bee Keeper

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theotherbride :  I would say no way to that. I mean what the hell? Hell no. That would piss me off and I wouldn’t even consider it. Why can’t he celebrate the next weekend? That’s a stupid request to be honest. Nooooooo. 

Post # 12
2314 posts
Buzzing bee

Do not move your wedding day for this.  You can celebrate his birthday with him after the wedding on his birthday.  I personally think it is a bit selfish to even consider moving such an important and sacred life even because one person is not of leagal age to drink of all things.

Post # 13
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I am a bit confused why this is an issue as his birthday is the next day, not your wedding day. There are a few likely scenarios but I am not quite sure which one is his issue:

  1. Does he not want to be out late the night before his birthday at your wedding because he needs to be alive and awake at 8 AM to get drunk on his actual birthday?
  2. Or does he want to be able to legally drink ON your wedding night and wants you to move it so he can go out after with the wedding party?
  3. Or would he rather illegally party with his friends on the night before his birthday? He needs to get over that, his legal birthday is the next day and he does not get an entire weekend to get drunk just because he turns 21 on Sunday. The allure of turning 21 is legally drinking in a bar which he cannot do that night anyway. If he wants you to move your wedding so he can illegally get drunk on Saturday night with his buddies to celebrate that is BS.

I would hold your ground and keep your wedding as is!

Post # 14
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wait,so the brother is actually fine with it but it’s your fi that’s insisting on it? He’s actually prepared to lose deposits/postpone wedding when the brother doesn’t even have a problem?! If that’s correct you have a very big Fiance problem. Can’t advise you as I’m actually gobsmacked!

Post # 15
11370 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Your Fiance needs to realize that while it’s great to be considerate of family, you are his most important family now, and you two already made these plans. 

The venue is booked. 

Hes willing to make you book another date but not willing to do something his brother doesn’t even care about? Not how a husband should be thinking. 

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