- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Edited because it’s actually your Fiance who has a bigger problem with this????? Um, what the heck? If the brother is fine with it, then you absolutely put your foot down and end the discussion. It’s slightly worrying to me that your Fiance would rather lose money on deposits, risk crappy weather for your wedding day, and inconvenience YOU rather than inconvenience his brother. The fact that your Fiance can’t understand that brother’s 21st birthday =/= his own wedding day is bizarre.
Hopefully this works out, but honestly, if this had been my DH, I’d be pretty ticked he worked this into an argument for nothing. I’d also be furious with his refusal to discuss it.
However, I will say that I was never one to get bent out of shape if holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries weren’t able to be celebrated “the day of.”
Would you be open to possibly inviting a few of his friends to the last half of your reception? My venue didn’t have a strict guest count, so my brother ended up inviting a few of his friends to the end of the reception (he cleared it with me a few weeks prior) and they had a blast! At that point, no food is being served, some people may have already left, so the numbers really won’t be all that skewed and, frankly, no one is really going to notice if a couple of extra dudes come in.
If that is not going to work for him, he can go out after the wedding. Personally, I find it ridiculous that someone would expect their sibling to reschedule their WEDDING for his birthday. If the roles were reversed and a Bee came on here stating that they wanted their sister to reschedule her wedding for her 21st birthday, everyone would tear that girl a new asshole. Don’t do it, Bee. This is absolutely the hill you want to die on. The brother will live if his birthday is celebrated later that night or, gasp, even the next weekend.