Post # 16
how about a general statement that you noticed some cards missing.
I feel like if you say nothing you risk being thought of as rude. If you read these boards, failure to say thank you could lead to a lot of family strife. Or, let your mom know and see it the news doesn’t travel.
Definitely don’t ask him or her directly if they gave you a card, though. That’s tres awkward.
Post # 17
you can always send a thank-you card that simply thanks them for sharing the day with you.
Post # 18
We sent everyone a thank you card for sharing the day with us, regardless of whether they brought a gift. There were a couple people from our wedding that we never located a gift from. Most we assume didn’t bring one. One couple we aren’t sure if it was intentional, but we have never brought it up. I’m 60/40 that it was intentional. They were young and didn’t have a lot of money so I wouldn’t be surprised if they didn’t.
Maybe if you don’t thank them for a gift, that will be a clue. But I think it’s completely appropriate to have Darling Husband ask his sister. It’s weird Brother-In-Law would say that they gave you something when they didn’t. But who knows if he was just embarassed or something, depending on who was in the room. Based on your memory of it, was he correct about how much the friend gave you? If you remember one correctly, I would assume you remember the other correctly.
Post # 19
Yes he was correct about what our friend gave us. That’s the thing, we didn’t bring any of this up, he did. That’s why we’re worried something was lost because why would he say that if it wasn’t true? I talked to my husband and he thinks he’s going to mention something to his mom to feel out if she knows anything.