Post # 1
Our wedding is 1600’ish miles away and my fiance wants to send invitations to coworkers (that we spend time with outside of work) to let them know we’d LIKE for them to attend. Even though we know they won’t. We have one couple that we hang out with pretty often so I planned on sending them one, along with another couple we hang out with semi-often. But he wants to send them to his 3 bosses, these two couple and another guy we’ve hung out with a few times. We know they will not come; we are having a celebration here after we return that they will come to.
Should we bother? Is it a bad thing to do? I mean aside from wasting the postage and all..
Post # 3
We sent invites to people who we were sure wouldn’t be able to come to let them know that we would like them to come.
Post # 4
We sent invites to people we were “sure” wouldn’t come because of distance or finances or what-have-you, and some have RSVPd YES. So, as long as you really do have space for them to come if they do accept, then invite them.
Post # 5
I have never understood the argument of “we are 99% sure they won’t be able to make it”. This is not possible unless you are the individual or couple being invited as you do not know their schedules or circumstances to be able to predict that with any amount of certainty. Invite them if you want them in attendance or don’t invite them if you don’t want them there. But if you want them to attend, send the invite and let them make the decision. When you do invite anyone, always expect 100% attendance as the 1/3-1/4 decline rate is an urban myth.
Post # 6
As long as you’re comfortable with the slight possibility that they MIGHT come, then I’d say, definitely invite them. It will make the statement of their importance to you, which is always nice. They’ll appreciate knowing that you will miss them at the wedding. Just be careful because what if they are able to come for some reason? Just make sure you’d genuinely be okay if they DID make it.