(Closed) Should we send invites to coworkers we know are 99% sure they cannot come?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We sent invites to people who we were sure wouldn’t be able to come to let them know that we would like them to come.

Post # 4
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We sent invites to people we were “sure” wouldn’t come because of distance or finances or what-have-you, and some have RSVPd YES.  So, as long as you really do have space for them to come if they do accept, then invite them. 

Post # 5
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have never understood the argument of “we are 99% sure they won’t be able to make it”. This is not possible unless you are the individual or couple being invited as you do not know their schedules or circumstances to be able to predict that with any amount of certainty. Invite them if you want them in attendance or don’t invite them if you don’t want them there. But if you want them to attend, send the invite and let them make the decision. When you do invite anyone, always expect 100% attendance as the 1/3-1/4 decline rate is an urban myth.

Post # 6
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

As long as you’re comfortable with the slight possibility that they MIGHT come, then I’d say, definitely invite them.  It will make the statement of their importance to you, which is always nice.  They’ll appreciate knowing that you will miss them at the wedding.  Just be careful because what if they are able to come for some reason?  Just make sure you’d genuinely be okay if they DID make it.

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