(Closed) Should we send save the dates to everyone?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should we send save the dates to everyone we plan to invite?
    Yes, people who are invited may be offended not to receive one. : (10 votes)
    43 %
    Send save the dates, but only to immediate family and close friends. : (10 votes)
    43 %
    Send an informal email letting everyone know the plans and skip the save the dates. : (2 votes)
    9 %
    Other? : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We are doing STD’s for oot guests (which is ALL of his guest list. Some of his family may have to fly in from Ireland) I’m not going to send them to my local family or friends because the standard 6-8 weeks is fine. But for people who have to think about international and long domestic flights, renting cars, hotels, ect will get one.

    Post # 4
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    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I only sent STD’s to people who I know no matter what would be on the a list so to speak. Also we had about half the guests coming from out  of the country so we thought it was best for people having to book flights. I just finished the final gues list for wedding invites and there are only 5 couples on there that did not get a STD.

    Post # 5
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    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We did Save-The-Date Cards ONLY for A list out of towners (and some people who I knew would really appreciate them).  If you want to send them to locals you can, but it certainly isn’t needed since they don’t have to plan vacations around your wedding.  Definitey DO NOT send them to anyone that you don’t know for sure will be invited to the wedding.

    Post # 6
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We are only doing stds for out-of-town family. In part this is to save money on stds, and because I don’t want to commit to inviting anyone in particular this far out (but family is all people who I know we will invite). We plan on doing A and B list invites with separate RSVP dates so that we can invite more friends as family decline, and it was important to me that no one know they are on the B-list, so I am keeping just the family on the a-list and just the friends on the b-list, if that makes sense.  

    Post # 7
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    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We sent save the dates to probably 2/3 of our list. It turned out to be a good thing that we didn’t send them to everyone because we needed to cut the list mid planning. Pretty much anyone who hadn’t revived a STD got cut. 

    Post # 8
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    2410 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    A list only for sure. If you send Save The Dates to th eB list then you are obligated to invite them no matter what.

    Post # 9
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    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We’re sending Save the Dates to our friends that live far away and our close family.  I guess that would be the A list, though really I would send to everyone if we could invite 200 people. 

    Post # 10
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    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We sent save the dates to only the out-of-town guests.

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