(Closed) Should we still Invite them??

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I think yes, you should invite them for the same reasons that your parents put forth.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you should still invite them. I agree with your parents.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@elysion:  +1  Be the bigger people!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@phishy179:  Nope nope nope.  If their behavior has been that bad, and you are worried about them causing a scene, just don’t do it.  Even if it’s unlikely but COULD happen, it’s just not going to be worth it.  It will cause tension for you for the entire day, and frankly, it’s a big day but it’s ONE day in your lives.  If you can’t trust someone not to sabotage your day or just be a big jerk during it, you actually DON’T OWE THEM AN INVITE.  Seriously.  If you wouldn’t invite a stranger behaving that way to a dinner party, why in the world would it be okay at your wedding?

Also: your Fiance and his grandparents know these people wayyyyyyy better than you, and seem to have a great objective viewpoint, and are not getting wrapped up in emotion – just being practical and real about what has happened and what is possible.  Follow his lead.  Don’t invite them.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@phishy179:  It’s not up to your parents or you. It’s up to Fiance because they’re his parents (and to a lesser extent his grandparents because one of them is their child). If Fiance and his grandparents say not to invite them, then don’t invite. You and your parents need to stay out of it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Of course it’s ultimately your + FI’s decision, but if he decisive as you are then i would be the bigger person & invite them. If you Fiance does NOT want to invite them, then don’t.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I vote no.

Yes you can take the high road, but there comes a point where etiquette and ‘being the bigger person’ has to stop.

If you don’t want them there – don’t invite them.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i say yes. that insulates you from ‘you never invited us’ and is definitely the high road. better to end on that note if it is the end. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Send them…be the bigger person.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would say yes.  My FI’s brothers family are all living in Japan right now and cannot make it for financial reasons.  We still sent an invite. 

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