Should we tell family this early?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When did you tell your family?
    As soon as I got my BFP! : (12 votes)
    16 %
    4-8 weeks : (27 votes)
    36 %
    8-12 weeks : (21 votes)
    28 %
    12+ weeks : (15 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 16
    Hostess
    11051 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    twistaway : We were planning on telling our parents at 12 weeks for similar reasons as you, but I struggled keeping it quiet as I knew how much both our parents would like to join in on the excitement so we told them at around 6 weeks. I told my close friends at 10 weeks as they were visiting it was good to be able to tell them in person. I just went with my gut instinct when it came to telling people, it was frightening at first because it was early. 

    Post # 17
    Member
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    So you’ll be about 8 weeks right? That sounds like a perfect time to tell people. I am one of those super cautious people who did not want to tell parents until closer to the 12 week scan for various reasons (which often get criticized on these boards from people who don’t understand why some people are private and wouldn’t want to go through a miscarriage with their Mother-In-Law, etc knowing- but everyone is different!).

    However, my parents came to visit from out of state when I was 9 weeks and we really wanted to tell them in person. First grandchild and all 🙂 Anyway, the risk of miscarriage at 8 weeks if you have seen a heartbeat is quite low. Good luck! And congratulations!

    Post # 19
    Member
    2168 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I told my mom the night of my BFP at 4 weeks, I then told my dad and in laws 3 days later. I slowly then told friends in person as time went on but by 8 weeks and after a scan, I didn’t care who knew.

    Post # 20
    Member
    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We didn’t tell until we hit 12 weeks.  After a loss at 6 weeks, then one at 9 we felt more comfortable waiting… mostly cause my family can’t keep things quiet.  This time we’ll likely tell close friends before family and tell family once we feel comfortable again.  

    Post # 21
    Member
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Not pregnant yet but ttc.  We have already decided to tell immediate family right away.   We will wait until 2nd trimester for extended families.   I figured that if we did lose a baby, we would want the support from our parents and siblings.

    Post # 22
    Member
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I told my family on Christmas Eve at nine weeks because I knew we all wouldn’t be together again for a while. Honestly, I’m so glad I did because getting to see everyone’s reaction in person was amazing. It was such a special moment. I also feel like if something were to go wrong, from here I would want their support. 

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