Post # 16
twistaway : We were planning on telling our parents at 12 weeks for similar reasons as you, but I struggled keeping it quiet as I knew how much both our parents would like to join in on the excitement so we told them at around 6 weeks. I told my close friends at 10 weeks as they were visiting it was good to be able to tell them in person. I just went with my gut instinct when it came to telling people, it was frightening at first because it was early.
Post # 17
So you’ll be about 8 weeks right? That sounds like a perfect time to tell people. I am one of those super cautious people who did not want to tell parents until closer to the 12 week scan for various reasons (which often get criticized on these boards from people who don’t understand why some people are private and wouldn’t want to go through a miscarriage with their Mother-In-Law, etc knowing- but everyone is different!).
However, my parents came to visit from out of state when I was 9 weeks and we really wanted to tell them in person. First grandchild and all 🙂 Anyway, the risk of miscarriage at 8 weeks if you have seen a heartbeat is quite low. Good luck! And congratulations!
Post # 18
indiblue : Thanks for the advice! I’m the same way with not being too keen on the idea of going through a miscarriage with my family involved. I love my mom, but she is the world’s most dramatic human which I feel would only make the situation harder.
Post # 19
I told my mom the night of my BFP at 4 weeks, I then told my dad and in laws 3 days later. I slowly then told friends in person as time went on but by 8 weeks and after a scan, I didn’t care who knew.
Post # 20
We didn’t tell until we hit 12 weeks. After a loss at 6 weeks, then one at 9 we felt more comfortable waiting… mostly cause my family can’t keep things quiet. This time we’ll likely tell close friends before family and tell family once we feel comfortable again.
Post # 21
Not pregnant yet but ttc. We have already decided to tell immediate family right away. We will wait until 2nd trimester for extended families. I figured that if we did lose a baby, we would want the support from our parents and siblings.
Post # 22
I told my family on Christmas Eve at nine weeks because I knew we all wouldn’t be together again for a while. Honestly, I’m so glad I did because getting to see everyone’s reaction in person was amazing. It was such a special moment. I also feel like if something were to go wrong, from here I would want their support.