Should we wait until I graduate college for the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Should we get married this spring or wait?
    Get married this spring! 2014 : (26 votes)
    26 %
    Wait! Get married next spring. 2015 : (73 votes)
    74 %
  • Post # 17
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    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’ll say go for 2014, but I’m biased.. ^-^

     

    We’re getting married in May 2014 and I’ll have my final exam by the end of June (medschool). I always wanted to marry BEFORE graduating since I didn’t want to have to change the name on the doctorate afterwards. So far I’m doing fine with planning while going to school/working at the hospital, everything’s organised (except for the dress). I had everything figured out by the end of summer (got engaged in May 2013) and now I’m getting tired of waiting for the day, so I’d definitely reccomend a shorter engagement!

    Post # 18
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    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    As nike says “Just Do It” lol you seem well grounded and mature enough and you both seem relatively secure in your education/work, so if you want to get married this spring, get married this spring. You will have the added benefit of having your new last name on your diploma 😉

    Post # 19
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    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @jenniferleighh:  I would say wait.  When I was in graduate school there was a girl who was engaged and planned on getting married right before graduation.  I was so jealous of her (here I am biding my time until after graduation to even get eneged, I thought) and envied her so much.  Four months before graduation she was so busy planning the details of her wedding that her grades started to tank.  In the end she did get married (congratulations to her), and she did graduate (barely, two professors ended up taking pity on her and giving her barely passing grades so that she could graduate).  In the end I did end up engaged (yeah), so I guess in the end it did generally work out well, but what I witnessed was that her grades suffered and so did her enjoyment about planning her wedding because she was stresses about school and graduation.  I’d say wait, enjoy both, and avoid the additional stress. 

    Post # 20
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    358 posts
    Helper bee

    I would go for 2015.  The way I see it is you only (hopefully) have only one chance to be engaged, have a fiancé and do wedding planning.  For me I want a minimum two year engagement so I can really slow down and fully experience this chapter of our lives.  We most likely would wait a few months after getting engaged to start planning, have a big engagement party that would take additional time to plan and be able to have time to do all the extras that go along with wedding planning.  I think rushing a wedding just 7 or 8 months after you JUST got engaged last week will be a regret.  

    Post # 21
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    3464 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

     @jenniferleighh:   I think you should wait. ONLY because you have such a busy life as it is. Also, it would be easier to take a honeymood after you graduate as you wouldn’t have to worry about school. It could be a honeymoon and a graduation trip! 🙂 How long have you guys been together?

     

    Post # 22
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    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - The Fox Hollow

    I just got engaged a little over a week ago and we are in a similar situation.  I am done with school and won’t be returning, but my Fiance just started getting his MBA in Accounting and won’t finish until December 2015.  For this reason, we are waiting untill Fall 2016 for our wedding.  Everyone looks at us like we’re crazy but it’s what works for us.  Plus, it’s giving us more time to save and have the big wedding we really want.  Weddings don’t come cheap on Long Island and we want it to be everything we’ve always wanted.  We’ve been together since 7th grade (11 years) and are now 23 and will be 26 when we get married.  It’s all about what’s best for you as a couple.  Hope this helps =)

    Post # 23
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    415 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I have a similar dilemma, but replace “May/June” with “October” and replace “graduation” with “need more than a year to save enough wedding $$”. We decided to wait till 2015 🙂

    Post # 24
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    166 posts
    Blushing bee

    Had a 4 year engagement while I finished schooling.  BEST decision.  Not only did I make sure I got the degree, but we got married in October, after the graduation that May.  Best year ever!

    Post # 25
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Being married shouldn’t hurt you graduating however, its a good feeling being able to start your life right after the wedding as opposed to getting married and still living like a student.

    Post # 26
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    2487 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wish I had given my self 3 times as much wedding planning time!

    and I wish I didn’t have to start of my marriage in college.

    Post # 27
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    554 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @jenniferleighh:  I could not have imagined going to college, working, and planning a wedding. I waited until i graduated mainly for that reason. It was also a personal preference, something I wanted to accomplish first. It’s a really personal choice and I would say just keep in mind what you think you can handle at one time. College is stressful, especially that last year!

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