(Closed) Should you have a baby shower for a second baby?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should someone be able to have a baby shower for a second baby?
    Yes : (82 votes)
    37 %
    No : (141 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I always thought you only had a baby shower for your first baby, since presumably you are starting from nothing.  However, for the second baby, you should have all of the stuff from the first and shouldn’t need as much.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think you could have a small baby shower for all of your work friends, thrown by a work friend. And then another baby shower for close friends and family, thrown by a friend/family member. 

    I think it gets trickier when you have overlapping guest lists. 

    Post # 5
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I was always under the impression that you only had a shower for your first baby, but lately, I’ve been hearing about “sprinkles” for second and third babies. More for second babies if you’re having a different gender than your first, and certainly not as big as your first shower was. I’d be ok going to a sprinkle if the gender of the first baby was different.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Multiple showers are commone for one simple reason– the mom-to-be doesn’t plan them, and often times multiple people want to do them.  For example, a family member, a friend, and a co-worker might all think to throw you a shower, and so long as no one overlaps on the guest list (except possibly immediate family for friend/family showers) it’s perfectly OK.  

    Currently a gal I know through my gym is expecting– I’m sure some of her friends/family will want to throw her a shower, but I’m planning to put something together just with the ladies at the gym. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I don’t know if it’s a question of “should”, but I think people “can” without it being a bad thing. They really shouldn’t be throwing their own, so if more than one person wants to, great. It’s like bridal showers. Some people have 2 or more.

    Personally, if any, I’d rather only have one. But if more than one person wanted to throw one, I wouldn’t necessarily say no, because I’d love to see more people. 

    Edit: I just saw your second post. I think it’s okay to have a shower for a second baby as well. Depending on the gap between babies, you’d likely still need more for the new baby (first one may still be in a crib, it’s a convertable crib, etc.). Also, it’s nice to celebrate the new baby as well. But again, it all depends on who wants to throw the shower. 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I always felt like you should only get a baby shower(s) for your first, because with your second you should have almost everything you need. That’s the good thing about going gender neutral with gear/crib sheets/toys/blankets for the first baby, even if you know what your having, so that you can use it again for baby #2. However, to each their own with this one, if someone wants to give you another baby shower…thats up to them! We had a “daiper shower” when my sister had her 3rd baby, but it was because it had been a few years in between kids and it was MUCH smaller than a normal shower and it was more of a celebration/surprise to show our support.

    Post # 10
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I guess it really depends on if someone wants to throw one. when my best friend was pregnant with her daughter i lived across the country and was not able to attend any showers. I told her if number 2 was a boy I plan to do something for it since a lot of what she had before was gender specific. 

    Post # 11
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My family uses any excuse for a party so I voted yes. I don’t think you should register for the second one but why not celebrate.

    Post # 12
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    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @rach122:  Gotcha! I wouldn’t see why not. It’s not like you’re throwing the showers for yourself. Plus, what if you have a baby girl first, then you need baby boy stuff. (car seats and such are the same, but clothes, diapers, baby towels, etc. would still be nice)

    I’m not a parent, I really don’t have any experience with baby showers, just my opinion 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think people tend to only have one baby shower because, like PP said, you have all the BIG stuff still from the first child and don’t *need* the crib and big stuff for the second.  I’ve known people who have had showers when they had a ‘surprise’ years after their last baby and didn’t have the stuff anymore.  

    My sister didn’t have a second baby shower, but my mom and I felt bad that she didn’t have anything, so we had a luncheon at my mother’s house (her shower was held at a hall).  Gifts weren’t expected, we were just celebrating that she was blessed with another baby.  A lot of ladies came and we had fun, and most of them brought gifts anyway (clothes, bottles, small stuff) because they were happy for her.  

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think there’s a difference between shower and party. While I think a new baby is always cause for celebration, I wouldn’t call it a shower. Showers are specifically for gifts and prepping mom with everything under the sun. However, a party is like a meet and greet for baby #2 and later, and people are welcome to gift as they see fit (or none at all).

    Personally, we still bring a gift for baby #2, even if we just stop by to visit, and it is usually cash (if the parents have everything), diapers/wipes (can’t re-use those!) or a few cutesy non-essentials, such as books or gender-specific clothing/accessories.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I had never heard it was only for your first until recently and I don’t really agree with the “the mom should have everything she needs from the first baby” argument but that’s just me. I mean, what if the baby is a different gender? That would offer itself for new gender specific clothes. Also, what if the second child was unexpected and the family had gotten rid of all of the “baby essentials” from the first child? What about diapers? 

    I’m also not saying you should throw yourself a party or shower for every baby you have. I just don’t see anything wrong with somebody throwing a baby shower for baby number 2 or baby number 3.

    That’s just the way I see it though 🙂

    Post # 16
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It’s usually just for the first… at least where I come from that’s how ya do it.

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