(Closed) Should you tell someone if you think they lost weight?

posted 5 years ago in Fitness
  • poll: Should you compliment someone if you think they have recently lost weight?
    Yes! It is a compliment either way. : (85 votes)
    67 %
    No, better to err on the side of keeping your mouth shut : (41 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    @ivoryowl:  sometimes I think its nicer to just say WOW your looking great!

    Post # 4
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    491 posts
    Helper bee

    If you feel uncomfortable about mentioning their weight, you can always just say something more general like “hey, you look really good!”

    Personally, when people have told me I looked like I lost weight I’ve always taken it as a compliment. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think it depends. If you have a friend that has been open about trying to lose weight, I don’t think there is anything wrong with telling them they look good! I don’t think I would say it otherwise unless it was incredibly obvious that they lost a bunch of weight on purpose, and even then I would still just say “wow you look great!” Instead of telling them they look like they’ve lost weight. 

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would say “You look great!” not “lost weight” because that implies they had weight to lose

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    If they’re open about trying to lose weight then maybe. But I’d just compliment them on looking great. Or rather compliment them on something not related to the way they look!

     

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Agree with all the PPs, just say “You look fantastic!” In college, I was really stressed/sick for a semester, and I told an acquaintance that I’d lost like 10 pounds. She responded, “Wow, congrats!” and I about fell off my chair. I did NOT think I needed to lose ten pounds, lol. (Today, on the other hand…)

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If I know they were trying and working hard on losing weight, I would definitely say “Oh wow, you lost weight, you look great/skinny/slim etc”. Otherwise, I keep my mouth shut and go with the typical “you look awesome”. Generally, I am very uncomfortable with making personal comments. 

    Post # 10
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    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Totally depends on who it is and how close I am to them!

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It’s always better to say “you look great” than “you look like you’ve lost weight.”  Always.  If they’ve been sick or stressed and dropped weight because of that, that’s not something you really want a compliment for.  And someone can look fabulous for reasons other than losing weight.  Maybe they got some new clothes, or had a fantastic vacation, or something.  There’s always things to compliment besides weight loss, and weight loss isn’t a prerequisite to looking good.

    Post # 12
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    5405 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would say to always default to “you look great!” unless you know for sure they have been trying to lose weight and working hard, in which case they would probably love to hear that their hard work is paying off. 

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Much better to say “you’re looking good!”. I’ve seen it happen where someone was complimented on weight loss and they were very ill, as in cancer. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’d rather just say, “Wow, you look great.” If they respond and tell me they’ve lost weight, then I’d comment and compliment on that.

    Post # 15
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    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If I know someone is trying to lose weight and I noticed they have, I will say something. I don’t usually say anything otherwise.

    Post # 16
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    6743 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m so surprised at these responses.  It seems to me like culturally, losing weight is a good thing even if you’re not trying to or didn’t need to lose weight lol – it’s like this mentality that “there’s no such thing as being too skinny” and maybe we’re slowly migrating away from that mentality, but until we do, I feel like telling someone that they’ve lost weight is a compliment, no matter what.  BUT, that’s just my take on it.  Now, if they said, “Wow, you look like you lost a ton of weight, I can see your rib bones, maybe you lost too much,” I’d probably find that to be less complimentary. 

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