(Closed) Should your everyday jewelry match your e-ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
4233 posts
Honey bee


“Shop my jewelry box.” I love it.

Post # 17
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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is_a_belle:  I have a gemstone ering and I wear whatever I like. That said I am planning to buy myself a moissy ring so I can change it up from time to time when I go out. My DH doesnt give a shit. He is all for fashion. It won’t be my ering. Just a birthday treat I wear with my wedding ring every now and then.

Post # 18
6621 posts
Bee Keeper

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is_a_belle:  I just want to send you a bunch of internet hugs, because I sense, especially from your second post, that you have really struggled with this. And it feels so unfair to me that you would have to deal with the emotional “baggage” (in quotes because I can’t think of a better word … lol) left behind by the rather thoughtless comments of others. (my apologies if that sounds harsh. that is not my intention.)

I agree with all the PPs. To match all your metals/jewelry or not is absolutely a personal decision. Some people want to match everything all the time. Others love to mix it up. I don’t think there is really any right or wrong way to do it. You should do what makes YOU happy. Whatever you do, own it, wear it confidently and with a big smile … and it will be perfect and perfectly beautiful. For what it’s worth I LOVE the manicure you posted. I think it’s beautiful and looks lovely on you. And I don’t think it makes your ERing look bad — at all. On the contrary, I think it looks lovely with your ring and set!

The set I wear now is platinum, so my jewelry pretty much all matches. This is not on purpose. It is because I prefer white-toned jewelry. I think it looks the best with my skin tone. So almost all of my jewelry, collected over many years, is sterling silver. I love sterling silver, think it looks good with my skin, and wear the heck out of it. (I also love that it’s less expensive — ha, ha!) BUT … my ERing and my original wedding band were yellow gold (ERing) and yellow and white gold (WB). I wore them with all of my silver jewelry and didn’t give it a second thought. And no one ever said anything to me about it, either. Which, personally, I think is as it should be. People should not comment on what another is wearing unless asked for an opinion. And, then, should probably comment sparingly.

Your ERing and set are beautiful! Good luck in mixing and matching … or in finding new pieces, if that’s what you want to do. Jewelry is beautiful and fun, and you deserve the joy of having fun with it! *hugs*

Post # 19
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You should be telling these people where to go. I tend to point out rude behaviour. Sometimes just repeating back what they have said in a sarcastic voice is enough to let them know you hear its a put down. ‘Oh, so you don’t like how I dress? You think my taste is awful? That’s disappointing, Leslie. Oh, well, I’ve got to go to have blah blah now’

Post # 20
9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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is_a_belle:  “So I worked with the few things I had that matched the ring, slowly donating all of my colorful clothes and replacing them with inoffensive neutrals that wouldn’t clash with the ring, and packing away all purses that didn’t have gold or brass hardware in case I have a daughter who might like old school designer bags with silver hardware. Only clear nail polish or natural-looking French manicures.

Wait what?? You’ve been getting rid of your clothes/purses and only getting certain manis just to please others/so that they “match” your ring? I’m sorry but that seems ridiculous to me. Wear what you want. If people have a problem with it, it’s THEIR problem, not yours. You’re letting them have power over you for doing all these things to please them. You’re letting them win. Part of life is accepting that what we like isn’t necessarily what every Tom, Dick, and Harry will like too… and accepting and embracing that.

If you want to spend time trying to make everyone happy, that’s your choice, but it’s a battle you’ll never win. I recommend growing thick skin and gaining self-acceptance/confidence instead.

Post # 22
1978 posts
Buzzing bee

Its too restricting to have one tiny piece of jewelry direct the rest of your look. No one is going to notice anyway.

Post # 23
43 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

I match some pieces and others I don’t. The way I do it isn’t really stressful. I like to match bracelets and rings on the same hand. Usually I wear yellow gold on the left and silver on the right, since I have many gemstone rings in silver, but only a wedding set (only two bands) in yellow gold. I prefer to wear a yellow gold watch because my wedding rings are yellow but I’ll wear stainless steel with a gold bracelet (or colorful bead bracelet) to tie the look together. I will match my earrings to my necklace.

I never worry about handbag hardware, that’s too much. I don’t like yellow and rosegold together, so after I got my yellow gold rings that I will wear everyday, I stopped wearing my cheapy rosegold watch. I probably won’t buy rosegold anymore because I don’t have any more pieces with it, and don’t wanna complicate things.

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