(Closed) Should your FH/SO have a say on how you look on your wedding day?

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I will take ideas my Fiance has for how I look; dress, hair, makeup.. but in the end I will make the choice based on what I like. 

Its actually funny you bring this up because my Fiance keeps saying when we watch wedding shows that he doesnt like dresses that arent strapless. My ceremony dress is a v-neck. I love it. It looks amazing on me. I will be keeping it. His opinion is welcomed but not the final say.

Post # 4
2270 posts
Buzzing bee

No way Jose. SO won’t have any input into how I look, and vice versa.

Post # 5
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012


Post # 6
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Of course he should. He’s the one who has to look at you. It’s not just YOUR day, after all. By being selfish and choosing a look he dislikes, you ruin his enjoyment of the day, plus he’ll end up hating all the wedding photos. I can’t imagine having chosen a look Darling Husband wouldn’t have liked. I wanted him to think I was beautiful on our wedding day. I don’t understand why any girl would WANT a look that she knows her groom finds unattractive.

Post # 8
7735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, you have a say in each other’s look. If he (e.g.) doesn’t want you with hair extensions, then you should take that on board. It’s his day too and of there’s something he doesn’t like, why do it and spoil his day.

That said, if your SO goes to effort, you don’t criticise it. Your FI’s brother handled it very badly.

I told DH what I was doing with my hair, but he didn’t see the trial.

Post # 9
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think to an extent – he wants to marry me, not someone who doesn’t look like me. His only input was that he wants to be able to recognise me. (And he vetoed a pair of shoes I liked, which was okay because I ended up finding a colour I liked better anyway).

In other ways, his opinion wasn’t terribly important. He didn’t love short dresses and my dress is knee-length. I don’t care much what he wears, as long as it’s clean and he remembers to shave and trim his hair back a bit if he’s let it grow out. Even then… if he doesn’t, he’ll still look like himself and he’ll be happy so meh.

Post # 10
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

In one word, yes. He will definitely have say in how I look at the wedding.

 I have shown him my hair inspiration and he likes it. He’ll be fine with whatever makeup I choose because I will probably go with something simple.

Post # 11
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

He approved my dress before I bought it, and gave input on my accessories, hair, and make-up. The only critique he offered from any of that was to do less make-up contouring for the actual day. I definitely took his input to heart and adjusted the make-up look. I wanted to make him happy and feel happy myself, so of course I wanted his thoughts on my look. I can’t imagine intentionally doing something that I know upsets him, and certainly would avoid that at all costs on our wedding day.

Post # 12
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

None whatsoever…unless it’s a compliment.  However, I do care about looking beautiful for Fiance so I do take that into consideration.  Hence an ivory gown and not a black cocktail dress (though I will be changing into one during the reception). 



Post # 13
1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

of course!!!

Post # 14
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I get to tell him exactly what to wear on our wedding day. Why am I immune from his scrutiny? He’s completely allowed to chime in if he so feels. I take everything he says into consideration — we both have very definite things we want or diswant, and we both respect that.

Post # 15
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

NO WAY!!! He should expect his bride to show up and look beautiful, which is exactly what will happen. 

Post # 16
1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t show my husband my dress before the wedding, and he didn’t really care to see it. I went really simple for my hair and make-up, and again he didn’t really have opinions about specifics, but we talked about what we’d like in general and I took his thoughts into consideration.

He let me help him pick out his suit and tie (though I think he ended up with his first choice, my second choice tie).

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