(Closed) Should your FH/SO have a say on how you look on your wedding day?

posted 9 years ago in Beauty
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Fiance hasn’t really said how he would like for me to look but I also don’t think he will.  If he did i would definately take it into consideration.  After all I want him to feel proud I am his bride.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

to an extent, yes.

maybe asking about things he doesnt like so you wont do them… but anyway, at the end of the day he will love how you look, unless the hair and make up are totally horrible.

Post # 49
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Helper bee

@SnowInApril:  

 

I love how most brides have no problem dictating exactly what outfit the groom has to wear, how he’ll comb his hair, facial hair, etc., but as soon as a groom has an opinion everyone acts all shocked and disgusted.  If you want a say in what he wears, you’d better respect his wishes on how you look.

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My FH has had some say in my wedding look. I jokingly told him I was going to wear a purple wedding gown and he threatened to leave me at the altar if I wore something so untraditional! He saw my makeup trial and liked it, which I was worried about because he normally does not like my heavier, formal makeup. He surprised me though by not wanting to see my hair AT ALL. He wouldn’t even be in the room while I was googling hair ideas.

Post # 51
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Do what you want.

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

And no I did not dictate how he looked and he did not dictate how I looked. That’s just how we are.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Marriage is about compromise. The earlier you start, the easier your marriage will be. My hubby can always give me his opinion. I will always take it into consideration.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Fiance is adament on me still looking “real” meaning no fake eyelashes and no hair extensions. We compromised and I will be doing false eyelashes and most likely not be doing hair extensions.

My friend’s Fiance gave her a list of things that her wedding dress should NOT have. Which I thought was ridiculous. He didn’t want her to have a big, poofy, wedding dress, which she has wanted. She chose a fit and flare and is wearing a crinoline underneath to flare it out a little.

Fiance said I will look beautiful in whatever dress I chose…so I hope he likes it!

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I absolutely want FI’s input. I want him to think I look absolutely gorgeous on the day of, just like he thinks of me every day 🙂 So I ask his opinion on dresses. I asked how he’d like to see my hair. I don’t wear lots of makeup and he doesn’t like lots of makeup so we were already in agreement there.

That being said, if he vetoes something I love, I’m not going to not do it just because he says so. I want to wear a colored dress, and while he did come out and say that our guests, at least on his side of the family, will definitely think it’s weird and untraditional, he himself doesn’t care what color I wear as long as I show up in love with him and willing to marry him, lol. Did he probably have a vision of a lovely bride in a white dress? Yes. Is it going to ruin his day if I don’t wear white? No.

So while I value his opinion and will take some of it to heart, he doesn’t get the final say in anything about my wedding-day look.

Post # 56
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@Edelweiss:  +1. I take what Fiance says into consideration. Fiance told me what he wanted my dress to look like. He said he wanted it fitted to show some shape and he didn’t want too much going on. I think I got that down and I AM very much in love with my dress. Fiance likes a woman who looks natural so my makeup won’t be very dramatic looking. He would like me to wear my real hair but he won’t win that battle. As long as it doesn’t “obviously” look like weave, he won’t care.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow we am pretty different. My SO (not engaged juuust yet, but still planning!) will probably end up coming with me to try on dresses because he has such strong opinions and to be honest, he’s probably the only person I would 100% without a doubt trust to tell me what looks good and what looks bad. We are both pretty stylish but I tend to go over the top. I fell in love with the blush pink Maggie Sottero Divina but when I went home and showed him, he didn’t like the bottom and said no pink. He then went onto my Pinterest (“where are all your wedding pictures saved? I know they are here somewhere”) and I created him a board and he pinned all the dresses he liked.

I told him no way am I going “natural” for hair makeup or dress – it is my wedding day it WILL be dramatic and he is up for that definitely, but I also know what he does and doesn’t like on me and I wouldn’t want him to think I looked prettier any other day than I do on my wedding day.

And I will have just as much say in how he looks too. He’s supposed to impress me. But neither of us would “force” something on the other, more likely just to veto something 😉

That’s obviously just us though!!! 

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Of course he has a say!  the most important thing to me is that he LOVES the way I look on our wedding day just as much as I do… Why would i want him hating on how i look at our wedding?  That just seems crazy to me… who would i be trying to impress then??

 

That said, I know he may not know what makes me look good in the abstract, e.g. maybe he doesn’t like a lot of bling and/or he thinks he doesnt like a lot of makeup on me (but I do wear some sometimes and I know he likes it!)… but at the end of the day, I am going to show him my hair and makeup trial.  I didnt show him the dress, though I was tempted, but I love the dress and already bought it, so what can you do.  🙂

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@Edelweiss:  Exactly!  I want to look beautiful…..and for him!

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