(Closed) Should your wedding date be at least x months away from your sibling's wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: If your sibling already has a wedding date set, how long before or after should your date be?

    One week or more

    One month or more

    Three months or more

    Shouldn't matter! Set your date whenever you want.

  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    I think to be considerate to guests you should leave a month between so anyone struggling has had another payday and won’t be financing going to a wedding twice in one month. 

    Post # 17
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    1270 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Sounds like you’re doing the right thing by checking with those you would like to come having to come twice. In some ways, if your brother is cool with it, doing it closer together, could allow for relatives travelling to make an extended trip?

    Post # 18
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    3053 posts
    Sugar bee

    It depends on the situation. If you have family flying from interstate or travelling long distances for both weddings and if your parents are paying for the weddings I would be inclined to spread it out. If not, I think 4-6weeks is enough of a gap between weddings.

    Post # 19
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    86 posts
    Worker bee

    Even if you don’t talk to your brother that often, it would be worthwhile to check in with him and see who all he is inviting. What if he isn’t inviting all of the relatives and then you start calling them to ask if they would be put off by having to attend two weddings? 

     

    Post # 20
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    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I voted for 3 months but the only reason was if parent’s were contributing to both weddings, plus any closer and most out of town guests will choose only one wedding.  If you don’t care if guests choose to go to their wedding instead of yours or willing to deal with brother and fsil being upset that guests are choosing yours then it doesn’t make any difference.

    Post # 21
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    217 posts
    Helper bee

    You should talk to your brother and his fiancé to get his & her opinion. (Especially her, if she’s doing the planning!)

    Sure, your relationship with your brother isn’t that close, but since you’re repairing it, you should communicate even more clearly or you could potentially wreck all the work you’ve both put in.

    Post # 22
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    If your parents are helping pay for both weddings or will have to travel for both and spend a lot I woudl give them as much time as possible to save. I would hate to inconvenience my parents of all people. 

    Post # 23
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Like previous posters said, same month, year or decade is fair game. It’s nice to consider how far guests are traveling, so if you have a lot of guests you want to come that are also going to the other wedding, space yours out so it’s not a financial hardship to make two big trips within the same month. If not – no problem 🙂

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