(Closed) Shouldn’t have jumped the gun…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ohhh I’m sorry. Well if this is any consolation at least you knew he was definitely ready to take the next step without you prompting him. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your SO must be making bank though, I thought taxes had only increased for the wealthier brackets. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Is there any possibilitiy there is a ring you like in a lower price range? It might help speed it up, if that’s what you’d rather 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I guess I’m just surprised that not enough wasn’t taken out. Unless he changed his w4 this year, I don’t see how it would have changed that drastically if he only makes 25k, but I’m not a tax professional.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Is it possible for him to save a little each month? That’s how my SO is doing it (he doesn’t assume he’s getting a return), little by little.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@MisfitPrincess:  Aww damn that sucks @ss. I’m so sorry girl!  I know its not much, but I’m sure he’s just as pissed/upset/ frustrated as you are. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Oh you poor thing!! I can’t even imagine how let down you must be feeling right now. Is there a family ring you could use? Or maybe just skip the ring step and get wedding bands? 2 of my friends did that when they got engaged. He kinda liked that they were both wearing something…..
I’m so sorry!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MisfitPrincess:  You can always hit up the gumball machine for an ‘interim’ ring and be officially engaged, then save up for the real ring as you plan the wedding.  I actually think that sounds kinda cute and romantic anyway!!  =o)  

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I totally understand. And obviously it’s bad news that he didn’t get any money back, but I guess to me, that sort of thing literally changes every year (new tax rules) I would never be able to depend on it. I think your SO needs a more stable plan than “let’s see what I get back.” I know it’s like 3 years later than you want to have to say that, but, I don’t know, if my SO was banking on it for three years and never got it, I don’t know. That made no sense. Sorry. (And I am sympathetic, my SO makes around 25k and has to pay off about 50k loans still, so budget is definitely the word to describe the ring I’m waiting on).

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@love108: THIS. Unless he changed something, nothing about his tax situation should have seriously changed.

I’ve made between $25,000-$30,000 a year for the past 3 or 4 years and have received almost the same amount back every year for the past 3 or 4 years. The only reason I’m getting less this year is because I wasn’t a full time student last year. And it’s nothing substantial.

The lady at your tax place confuses me. Was a mistake made? I’m sorry 🙁

Post # 16
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Helper bee

@MisfitPrincess:  Awww… that really freaking sucks!

I have a ring right now.  It’s my Grandma’s birthstone with a gold setting, very plain.  I am going to ask SO to re-set it with white gold and to keep it SIMPLE.  No diamonds, no additional stones.  Just a new little setting.  I am doing this because I don’t want money to be a “reason” for not proposing.  Is downgrading your ideal ring an option?  You can always get your dream wedding ring on your 5 year anniversary or something.

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