(Closed) Shouldn’t I FEEL like a bride?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i feel the same way until my fi starts talking about the wedding and keeps saying i cant wait to spend my life with you!! and he gets excited each time i tell him i completed something for the wedding! Is your Fiance excited….my Fiance is the one that makes me feel like a bride!

Post # 4
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When I was trying on dresses, I didn’t feel like a bride. I felt like I was just putting on pretty dresses. I still don’t feel like a bride but it’s fun trying to plan a wedding.

Post # 5
1285 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think i know exactly how you feel. I ordered my dress from an online store, when it arrived i totally loved it and it fits perfectly. Then after a while i didn´t like it anymore, thinking of it made me sad, because it´s not a real wedding dress. I found so many pictures of dresses i thought i would love more, i was even thinking of ordering a cheap gown from China. Then i tried it on again, and realized again that it is a sweet dress, it just needs some changes. I will add some flowers or whatever, haven´t decided yet.

I totally love planning my wedding, planning cute little details and surpises for my Fiance. I finally found a great photographer, i am so excited to work with her, and can´t wait for the wedding day. However, when i look into the mirror wearing my dress, i like what i see: a women wearing a pretty dress. But i don´t see a bride. Strange…

I have a theory about that, i guess it is because currently I do not like myself. I have been sitting at home for the last four weeks doing just nothing, because my company filed for bankruptcy, and now i am forced to wait how things will develop, and if i can go back to work or not. That makes me really sad, because i love my work, and the company. I am eating unhealthy crap all day, at least i am not gaining weight, but i just do not feel comfortable with my body, my skin is pale and i look so tired every day, even though i get enough sleep. I do not like my hair and can´t decide on a new hair cut or color. I just do not like what i see in the mirror and i know i should change something, or at least do some sports or yoga, but i am just too lazy :))

Then my Fiance is working really hard, he has started a new job, and when he comes i am like “hey lets do something nice” because i am so bored, but he is very tired and has to go to bed early. So currently things are not “normal” here, like they used to be.

Maybe there is something that you do not like about yourself as well, that makes you feel like not being a bride. Maybe it´s because we have a long wait until the wedding day. Actually i do not know the answer, but i am pretty sure we will start feeling like brides when the big day is near!


Post # 6
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My dress search has been long and stressful, and I felt the same way. Just dressing up in pretty clothes. I really thought that a slim a-line would fit my modern, un-froofy, serious academic sensabilities. And they looked OK. They were certainly very nice dresses, but they were so interchangeable. I couldn’t find one I loved. I liked elements of each. So I just kept trying, and I expanded my search. I figured if that wasn’t working I should try on some more styles, and wouldn’t you know it — a very full A-line won my heart. It’s a total princess dress.  When I walked out of the dressing room, I was speechless. I came to realize that specific dress was lacking some of the details I had wanted all along (a lace hem), but I looked around more and found another dress that is the same shape and designer but WITH the lace details I want. I am so excited, and I can’t wait. I feel like a bride, like it’s all really happening, and like I’m going to be the most beautiful person in the world on that day.

So I say keep looking within reason. Consider time and budget constraints. It took me a little over a year from the beginning of my dress search till now, but my long engagement afforded me the ability to keep looking. And go try more things on. I looked online at new collections, used dresses, you name it! But it’s impossible to know 100% how the dress will make you feel until you put it on. So go try more on, even if it’s just to get a new idea. Be open to details, designers, or shapes you hadn’t considered. You may just surprise yourself. I was stuck on the idea that I am not a “princess” personality so I wouldn’t want a very full (tulle, no less) skirt, but it just looked amazing and felt amazing when I had it on. Who knew? Good luck to you!

Post # 7
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think I felt like a bride until it was actually time to start the ceremony.  For me, a dress wasn’t going to bring on that feeling.  Also, I was so busy all week and that day with last minute details I really didn’t have time to think about it.  Hang in there, it will come!

Post # 8
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

A lot of people feel like this when they try on their dress but then when it all comes together fitted perfectly on your wedding day with any or all of these things: hair done, make-up done, shoes, veil, family with you, pictures snapping, I think that is when you feel like a bride.

Post # 9
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think different things make different people feel like a bride. For me, whenever I step into my venue (it’s all-inclusive, so we go there a lot for various appointments), I feel like a bride.

The dress shop? Not so much. Cake tastings, bridesmaid dresses and diy projects haven’t done it for me. But when I step into the country club where my wedding will be, I completely, 100% feel like I’m getting married.

I bet you’ll find what does it for you, and if nothing else, it’ll happen the day of for sure!

Post # 10
539 posts
Busy bee

I was the same way after I bought my dress, and felt the same until my last alterations appointment when I tried it on with my jewelry and veil…on the day of the wedding when my hair, make up was done, jewelry on, I knew I had made the right decision 100% and it was amazing and I felt amazing!

Post # 11
4824 posts
Honey bee

Everyone’s experiences will be different and I wouldnt be too worried.  It may take being all dolled up, it may take walking down the aisle or even wearing a silly sash at a bachlorette.


I dont really feel like a bride right now although its fun to plan our wedding. However, when I was trying dresses on I knew I found the one because it was the only one that made me feel like a bride. Many others were pretty, but this gave me the right feeling. No I didnt cry, but I grinned like and idiot.

Post # 12
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didnt really feel like a bride until the minute I started driving down to Georgia to begin our wedding weekend!!! Before that I dont know what I felt…but I definitely did not feel like a bride! Everything just felt unreal!

I would get pangs of “Im a bride” feelings when visiting my venue and picturing our wedding or when going to wedding events like my bridal shower or bachelorette….but again, the true feeling didnt come until I actually was a bride!

Post # 13
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I definitely don’t feel like a bride when trying on dresses.  I feel more like a little girl playing dress up or something.  My reaction each time I see myself in the mirror is “wtf, Entangled, why are you wearing a dress?!  That is WEIRD!”  Part of why it’s so hard for me to commit, I think, is that I feel like people will find the image of me in a wedding dress funny (not in an I look terrible sort of way, but in a totally out of character way).

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong.  I just think everyone is different and there’s no one way a bride should feel.

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