My apologies, because I think my earlier reply sounded as if I was anti-upgrade or something like that. I am definitely not. I am very much for ladies doing whatever makes them happy with their jewelry. If that means upgrading, then I’m all for it. If that means keeping their original rings, then I’m all for that, too. I thought I read some hesitation about upgrading in your reply, and I was trying to be supportive of whatever decision you eventually decided to make. I failed in a huge way, and I’m very sorry for my clumsy words.
For myself, switching really wasn’t a hard decision. My DH gave me my anniversary ring for our 15th anniversary last year. At that point in time, I hadn’t worn my ERing for 15 years. We didn’t have the money when we got married to get the matching band for it, and it didn’t go at all with the band DH picked for me. When DD was born, I gained a LOT of weight, so I also hadn’t worn my original wedding band (it has an eternity design, and couldn’t be resized) for about 10 years. In that time, DH had given me different sterling silver wedding bands, and I switched between them. So I already had the habit of switching bands before I ever got my anniversary ring.
My ERing, although a beautiful ring, was never what I wanted. It wasn’t what DH wanted, either. When we got engaged, we both wanted white gold (couldn’t afford platinum), but white gold was not available anywhere. So we settled for yellow gold, with the open intention of getting a white metal ring “one of these days”. I wore my ERing for a long time. We were engaged for about 6 years, and I wore it pretty much 24/7 during that time. I became attached to it and sentimental about it during that time simply because it was my ERing. I’m still sentimental about it. The fact that I don’t wear it very often doesn’t change my sentiment about it.
My anniversary ring is everything I had dreamed of — and even more! I never would have dreamed of having such a pretty and sparkly setting. And I love that it’s platinum, so I have the white metal I had always wanted. Honestly, I would be hard-pressed to switch my anniversary ring for anything. It feels really perfect to me. In another 15 or 20 years, who knows? I might feel differently.
I do have a lot of wedding bands. That’s because I am indecisive and terrible at picking a band to go with a ring, probably because I wore just a band for such a long time. I had always wanted a “set”. So I kept switching them around, trying to find something that felt “perfect” to me, which took a while. *fail*
(Ack! Sorry this is such a long reply. >.O)