Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
I am having the worst time in the world dressing my man of honor. The men are wearing brown tuxes with guava ties/vests, the girls in guava chiffon dresses. I want my man of honor to coordinate more with the girls then the guys and I don’t want him mistake for a groomsman!
What can I do to differentiate him from the rest of the men? I started out looking for a guava shirt, but it seems to be non-existant. Then I was thinking brown pants, tan patterned shirt, brown bowtie (or vice versa), no jacket, with a boutenniere (sp?) to match the dresses. *sigh* why is this so difficult?? Probably b/c I picked a difficult color to match!! 🙁 🙁 🙁
Please post pics of men in your bridal party, I need inspiration!!! Thanks!!
Post # 2
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Busy bee
I decided to have him wear the same tux and have same color flower as the rest of the guys. My Fiance also has a groomswoman and she is wearing the same thing as my girls. I don’t have any pictures yet and I also was concerned about him being mistaken for a groomsman, but he is standing on my side and during introductions will be introduced as the man of honor so that should clear things right up.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
PrincessBride2014: That’s true. He’s very receptive to wearing something “out of the box”, so I figured I’d play on that but so far, nothing is working. I have a little more time time spend on his attire but I won’t drive myself crazy. I can’t!
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
BurlapnLace: post a picture of colour for reference. Perhaps someone can help you find a shirt.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
That is the b’maid dress. I found a similar shirt, as close as anything, in Kohls. Then I think, what kind of tie/bowtie? With brown pants, like the guys? Hmm…
Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
BurlapnLace: I think he should be dressed in the same level of formality as the other men, so that would rule out a “no jacket” look.
Even if you found a guava formal shirt, he would look like a magician or other entertainer. No one outside of show business wears colored formal shirts in North America.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
julies1949: EXACTLY. I found a button down, similar in color but it wasn’t formal enough.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
The groomsmen, ushers and fathers were in regular “classic” black and white tuxes. my brides-man had a bowtie that matched the bridesmaids dresses, and the groomswoman had a black dress that looked like, but wasnt exactly the same as, the bridesmaid’s dresses. So, it was subtle, but it made them stand out a little while still looking like part of the group. the flowers were all the same color, the groomswoman had a pinned corsage instead of a bouquet.
*they are both on the left side of this picture
Hope this is helpful! 
Post # 9
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Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
BurlapnLace: My bridesman wore the same as the Groomsmen, people knew he wasn’t a Groomsmen because he stood on my side during the ceremony!
Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
I forgot to add that even though it will also send some Bees into apoplexy, he could wear a long tie instead of a bow tie. It’s easy to find ties that have some of the color you need, whether that is a stripe or other pattern.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
julies1949: First of all, I commend you on your use of the word “apoplexy”. And yes, I was thinking bowties for him b/c the other men are wearing ties. My Fiance wanted to be as casual as possible w/in reason, so no bowtie for him and his guys.
How about this (it’s so hard to picture): brown pants, tan shirt, guava bowtie, suspenders!? Oy…
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
For reference, this is basically me. I hardly know how to dress myself, let alone others!
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Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
BurlapnLace: I still think if the other guys are wearing a tux, he should too. A shirt and pants outfit isn’t nearly as formal.
I’m assuming that the men are wearing white shirts. I would have him wear the same.
If the men are wearing long ties, a bow tie will be enough to distinguish him from the others.
In the spirit of full disclosure, I will say that I am not a fan of colored vests. I think they look a little too 80’s prom-ish, but if that’s what the two of you want, so be it.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
Not quite the same thing, but we had a Best Lady. Perhaps you will get some inspiration from this:
Perhaps you can put him in a tuxedo but have him wear a bowtie or tie the same color as the bridesmaids dresses. We put the Best Lady in the same dress as the bridesmaids but in black.
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
TaurianDoll: Gorgeous! Those look like my dresses, are they DB guava?
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