(Closed) “Show Me the Bling?”

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The funny thing is, when I mention here that we didn’t have engagement rings, so many brides have said things like, “Oh, people wouldn’t even believe we were engaged until I had a ring.”  However, no one ever asked to see my engagement ring, or appeared surprised that I didn’t have one.  I guess I just have a very strange group of friends?

Post # 4
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841 posts
Busy bee

Everyone I know first asks 1)if I got a ring 2)can I see it then finally, 3) Congrats :/. 

Post # 5
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720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Prettyinpink89: This is why I always congratulate first.  I feel like too much of an engagement is focused on the ring and not the actual milestone.

 

I don’t get asked much anymore but I don’t get offended.  I like jewelry so I always ask to see others’ rings too.  Just not right away 🙂

Post # 6
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t really get asked anymore but I did when I first got engaged and I didn’t mind at all. It was usually Congrats then Show me the bling… and I love it so I definitely don’t mind showing it off. 🙂

Post # 7
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2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

im right there with Corgitales…when I first got engaged everyone wanted to see it…now its died down a lot…I do occasionally see people staring at it…so I get happy 🙂

Post # 8
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2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve noticed there are a few groups that ask to see my ring:

For vendors I take it as a sign that they care at least a little about our business as they are showing interest. I’ve been to vendors where they barely asked questions beyond the basic and certainly did not ask to see the ring.

For older coworkers, I found it fun, until the women compared it to their rings. Most married young men who hadn’t really started in the work place so their center stone is often 1-1.5 ct smaller than mine. Then I feel slightly self-conscious.

With younger friends it is just fun. They coo and praise and then show actual interest in my plans. It is just entertainment for them, marriage isn’t on the table for them in the near future even with our university’s trend so they have no serious stake in planning.

 

My friends that are my age or slightly older seem the most put off. Many of the friends I grew up with have yet to be even in a slightly serious relationshihp so it may be reminding them that I’ve had better luck with guys, or they just are against relationships in some cases. I don’t get really offended by someone not asking to see the ring, it’s more if they don’t even congradulate us that I get offended (which has happened).

Post # 9
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I loved showing off my ring (I’m married now so people don’t care anymore). I rarely had to wait for people to ask b/c my mom was always shoving my hand in people’s faces.

Post # 12
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@artbee: Ha ha. I can totally relate. I’ve only been engaged a month and everytime I’m with my mom and see people that we haven’t seen yet she immediately shoves my hand it their face. I know she’s excited and I’m thrilled to show it off, but I’m afraid it borders on rude sometimes. It’s really funny when she has done it with men she does business with – they always offer congrats, but I’m sure they have no interest in seeing the ring although they of course make polite comments since she shoves it in their face.

Most of my friends asked to see it and the ones who didn’t kind of suprised me although I wasn’t offended.

Recently we were looking at an apartment and the girl was recently married so she noticed my ring and asked to see it. After she ohhhed and ahhed at mine I asked to see hers. My Fiance said she seemed reluctant to show it to me because although the diamond was bigger it was clear she loved the details in my setting and even said something about her’s not being as cool. I was just flattered she liked mine so much.

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