(Closed) Show your fiance your dress before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

My Fiance has seen the swatches of my dress but that’s it. We’re waiting until the ceremony for him to see it, but there’s nothing wrong with your Fiance seeing it beforehand. There is no right or wrong with that kind of thing.   

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

he hasn’t seen it, but it’s his choice, not mine! I would happily show him pics of the dress if he wanted to (he can’t picture things so it would just be another dress unless it had me in in lol). No one has seen it on me except the seamstress- mum wants to wait until the day of, and I kind of like keeping one detail of the day to myself 🙂

Post # 18
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Helper bee

My hubby is helping me pick everything – he’s my go to style honesty person (we are already married, but having a party thing next summer with the trimmings).

I don’t do well with keeping things from people, so trying to keep it a secret wouldn’t work for me. He doesn’t mind either way.

Post # 19
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473 posts
Helper bee

He’ll join me for dress shopping. I’m so insecure with my body, so I want him to be my support.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I am keeping my wedding dress a secret only my mom and future mother in law have seen my wedding dress.

Post # 21
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Helper bee

I’m making my dress in our living room so he has seen it a lot. Unavoidable. However we will not see each other before the ceremony the day of the wedding. Gotta keep some magic!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

amydee :  I sent H photos from my appointment and he helped make the final selection. He would have come with me, but my mom really wanted that experience, so mom and I went to the salon while H and dad hung out. We met up after and I showed both of them all the photos. Since my dress was from BHLDN, it arrived via mail a week later. I immediately tried it on for H. We in no way felt like something was lost, but EVERYONE lost their minds when I told them. They also were unreasonably aggrieved that we stayed together the night before the wedding…

Post # 23
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Helper bee

My Fiance is the only one I asked to come dress shopping with me. He’s the only opinion I care about. That said, we are 100% non-traditional. If my friends/family don’t like it, then poo poo on them 🙂

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I was currently in a wedding show a few weekends ago and made the mistake of allowing him to come and watch as I was actually modeling my wedding dress.  I had showed him pictures of the dresses I would have on during the show so it wasn’t a big shock to him when he saw me in them.  After the show he told me which one he liked the most and which one he liked the least.  He told me he liked the one I had picked out as my wedding dress the least.  Hurt my heart a little.  He could tell something was bugging me so I told him that was the dress I had my heart set on.  He felt horrible afterwards.  He loved the picture of me in the dress that I showed him because they glitzed it up for me with a belt and a veil.  He said it was just too plain face to face without anything and that it didn’t look like it was fitting properly (sample size was too big for me and wasn’t done up properly in the back.. try having only 3 minutes max to strip from one gown into another that’s a corset back.. NOT fun lol).  I ended up picking that same dress after I went back to the shop and told my consultant about what happened because of how I felt in it.  I told him that I ended up purchasing another dress (kind of just to make him feel bad lol).  He can now wait until June of 2018 to see what I purchased. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

couper :  I agree! I don’t believe in this superstituous mumbo-jumbo.  We are seeing each other before the ceremony so that we have more time for pictures and it won’t feel as rushed and insane.  He’s seen me in wedding dresses already. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

My fiance doesn’t care about anything fashion-related but I excitedly showed him my dress anyway.

I didn’t get the tradition of not showing your Fiance the dress at first either, but I can see how it can make the day more magical, since it’d be the first time he’d see you all dolled up in a custom-fit dress. I was looking at measurements of normal dresses and noticed that I have a size 0 bust and a size 6 butt, so “average” clothes would probably not be the most flattering on my body. On the big day though, you’d’ve put down so much money on a custom-fit dress that you’d look AMAZING and make his jaw drop again.

Maybe. 

Or he’d be like whatever.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

stayingcalmandhappy :  right here with you! I’ve paraded it around the house and he’s helped me button it up. And I’ve tried it on more than once. It makes me happy to try it on and we aren’t traditional anyways 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I definitely didn’t show him, nor any of the dresses I didn’t get! I wanted my entire look to be secret. I thought that maybe he saw it on my work iPad (I had some photos amongst my work photos) but he says he never saw it and now the wedding has been so no longer relevant! I showed him lots of dresses I tried on and didn’t buy after the wedding as I normally share everything with him and it was really strange to go through the wedding dress process without him, so that was kind of my way to share it all afterwards. (Though that was probably very mildly interesting to him but he was a good sport looking and agreeing I definitely got the best one 😛).

ETA: we stayed apart the night before the wedding…though I may have snook down to see his room ☺️

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Mine has been coming with me to try dresses on. But it’s a different situation – we live 6000 miles away from my family, I’ll be wearing a traditional dress from another culture than mine and so I wanted his advice on what would be right. I tried on a few Western-style dresses for the party too but didn’t make my mind up at the time, we need to go back. I don’t really care about him seeing it before, I’ll be happy that he likes it, and I’m more bothered about marrying him than what I’m wearing.

 

Edit to add: I also plan on staying together the night before the wedding too!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

No, we both wanted it to be a surprise.  I was even careful who I’d show pictures of my dress.  Lol.  The photographer did get a great picture of his reaction as I walked down the aisle, but I don’t know if seeing me beforehand would have changed that. 

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